I met my Wife at Uni... and she's everythig I could ever wish for.
She was a exchange student from the US: We met in the Students Union both waiting for someone who never turned up.
The best way to meet someone is go to join a club.. i.e Sport or night school activity.
Its garenteed that in a club e.t.c there will be people who have joined purely with the intention of meeting someone.
I have known frends that have used Dating agencies, their relationships never seemed to go the distance...It would seem that with that system people are to keen to rush in. Once they are in at the deepend the realise that they were more interested in finding a partner than finding someone they were truely compatible with.
Then again my Wife's sister met her husband via a dating agency and they are what I would call perfect for each other.
my mate went on a couple of years ago. i made fun of him, but he's getting married at the end of the year, and i'm looking forward to another christmas alone.
is it worth the effort, or should i just let fate decide my love life?
most forums are dating sites if you pick one with loads of wimmin on :)
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I met my Wife at Uni... and she's everythig I could ever wish for.
Time to be Mr Controversial ! - But on the other hand you dont know any different ? When i was 20 and met my first main proper girlfriend for a long period i thought it was the best thing ever, she was the one etc but eventually it fell apart.
Best thing i did was to 'get it out of my system' in my 20's and then settle down. Experience different relationships, different girls etc. All my mates who got married in their early 20's are all divorced now. They thought they had met 'the one' just because it was their first proper relationship which lasted a few years.
Also Miles, dont get married within two years of meeting a girl , if you last a few years the first two years are amazing, you arent thinking straight though so dont do anything silly !
If you have met the one fair play to ya but i'm very anti-get married to your first big real love. I dont mean any offence !
I met my wife on the internet , not through some dating site but she popped up as a random chat message on ICQ almost 7 years ago now. I was using it to chat with my Quake clan mostly , so would normally have ignored it , but for some reason I replied and we kinda hit it off from there. Didnt get to actually get to meet her for 18 months though (shes an Argie) but despite it being a bit of an "awww how romantic" story for her friends , was a good move in the end. Lucky girl :D
It is funny some of the photos people use though, its like David Brent in the Office Special when he has a really old cheesy photo of himself. Some of the pics i saw before i met a couple looked very very different from real life.
i think im gonna go the old fashioned way, i tried to write a profile for a site and i sounded really shit.
I wouldnt worry too much about what you write on those sites, at the end of the day its when you meet em what counts. We're taking the mick out of dating websites etc but apparently the people using them nowadays arent that bad at all compared to yesteryear
A few years back, I was chatting to a girl on MSN. She had a webcam, but wouldn't let me see her. I eventually persuaded her and she switched it on. She hid from view, but put a photograph of herself in front of the camera. It was a really awful, cheesy professional photo which she had probably paid a fortune for. She still looked awful in that.
So I'd chat to her, with the webcam on - facing a photograph of her.
Bizarre girl. I thought, why doesn't she just put that pic on her profile. That way I would have known to avoid her in the first place. Moose.
I didn't get to see her tits either... Complete waste of my time.
I wouldnt worry too much about what you write on those sites, at the end of the day its when you meet em what counts. We're taking the mick out of dating websites etc but apparently the people using them nowadays arent that bad at all compared to yesteryear
thats why i asked, apparently there is no shame in it anymore.
were all metrosexuals with no time to find love in today's hectic lifestyle, apparently.
The crazy thing about the whole girlfriend / women situation is that it is frustrating from both sides. It's frustrating when you can't find a decent girl - but then when you do, you get tons of opportunities with other girls.
Similar to a job - it's easier to find one from another one. I used to treat girls in that way (very chauvinistic I know). I'd get off with a ropey one, just for the sex / company, while shopping around for an upgrade and so on. That way you're getting your end away and not frustrated while you are looking about.
It is true though. When you find a decent girl, you find you are more in demand with other girls. Probably because you are under no pressure to get one and you're more relaxed / natural with them. Plus insight from your girlfriend always helps with understanding other girls.
The crazy thing about the whole girlfriend / women situation is that it is frustrating from both sides. It's frustrating when you can't find a decent girl - but then when you do, you get tons of opportunities with other girls.
Great point ! Always the way isnt it ! Presume us blokes must send off different vibes when we're attached/single. But yeah very frustrating when that happens !
I do think Miles should have a special 'David Brent' pose photo in a white suit to put on his file !
Yeah - used to play around with the idea that forums, Usenet could be a way of talking to the ladies. Though when I think about it now it reminds me of a simple drive by - some dude blasting his horn as he drives past some Bird - which is a bit useless when I think about it!
If you had some dating forum, then yeah maybe you'd get something. Dating Websites?!? What is this 1994? :-D
Bit of a sceptic on the meeting someone who works in the same industry - don't know though - could work perhaps?
What happens when your not the parting sort - meeting people at parties might only get you to more parties (which you don't want). How do shy people get themselves out there?!?
Bit of a sceptic on the meeting someone who works in the same industry - don't know though - could work perhaps?
It's very common - providing there's a decent male/female balance in your industry. If you're in IT, then you're pretty much screwed, and not in the good way.
Time to be Mr Controversial ! - But on the other hand you dont know any different ? When i was 20 and met my first main proper girlfriend for a long period i thought it was the best thing ever, she was the one etc but eventually it fell apart.
Best thing i did was to 'get it out of my system' in my 20's and then settle down. Experience different relationships, different girls etc. All my mates who got married in their early 20's are all divorced now. They thought they had met 'the one' just because it was their first proper relationship which lasted a few years.
Also Miles, dont get married within two years of meeting a girl , if you last a few years the first two years are amazing, you arent thinking straight though so dont do anything silly !
If you have met the one fair play to ya but i'm very anti-get married to your first big real love. I dont mean any offence !
Mr Controversial .... more like mister Pessimistic. ... maybe you had your heart broke once or twice but that’s still no need to be one of those preachy preachy “Woman did me wrong “ pessimistic multiple divorcee stereo types. ( no offence just kidding).
For a start of I'm 30. I have had my share of break-ups. 6 Months Before I met my Wife I had been engaged in a four year relationship that came to a sad and sorry end. Looking back it was the best thing to happen to me.
Yes In most circumstances maybe getting married in under two years is something to be careful of. However, if you think you have found misses/mr right go for it is worth the Gamble because the payoff is so great… However, do be sure to check with some close friends or family as they may observe things you don’t. It’s a better way to get a clear picture.
Anyways Mile has not even got someone in mind yet let alone all this ^^. :eek:
For a start of I'm 30. I have had my share of break-ups. 6 Months Before I met my Wife I had been engaged in a four year relationship that came to a sad and sorry end. Looking back it was the best thing to happen to me.
Yeah i know what you mean, often when something seems really bad it turns out to be a good thing. Like i say with me losing my job (i was gutted) finally getting this other job eventually led to me and the missus getting together so it all ends well.
Remember on Ch4 you had those programs where they look back at people from 5 or 10 years ago and they keep doing that ? Very interesting the changes in some of them, when i look at me and my friends, 5, 10 years ago its amazing how things change regarding gf's etc
Great point ! Always the way isnt it ! Presume us blokes must send off different vibes when we're attached/single. But yeah very frustrating when that happens !
It's because you're no longer trying to impress and trying to make women like you. You're far more relaxed and being yourself because you know at the end of the evening you WILL be going home with a woman.
It's because you're no longer trying to impress and trying to make women like you. You're far more relaxed and being yourself because you know at the end of the evening you WILL be going home with a woman.
funny thing is, it's opposite for women.
if one tells you she's single, you automatically think she's up for a shag. but if she has a partner, you back off, in fear of getting your head kicked in by her bf.
Good evening, everyone. I'v been reading with interest, since my friend and I are looking for girlfriends (I haven't been out with a girl for 9 years and I'm only 21!) Any advice about meeting them and talking to them? Most girls in bars nowadays seem to hang out with a group. Are there any single girls round my age that are on this forum, or is this now getting into inappropriateness? (wow, that's a long word! does that word even exist?)
if one tells you she's single, you automatically think she's up for a shag. but if she has a partner, you back off, in fear of getting your head kicked in by her bf. Unless you kick his head in first! :-D
Actually that's a very good test of character because if she feels pity & is soft she'll run for the victim, though anyone who backs the bully is simply cold & personally I can't see how I could go out with someone who's cold.
But that's life though, many people I meet in my travels are booked out & the opportunistic meter plummits to zero.
Good evening, everyone. I'v been reading with interest, since my friend and I are looking for girlfriends (I haven't been out with a girl for 9 years and I'm only 21!) Any advice about meeting them and talking to them? Most girls in bars nowadays seem to hang out with a group. Are there any single girls round my age that are on this forum, or is this now getting into inappropriateness? (wow, that's a long word! does that word even exist?)
go on a dating website, they are some for yonger people. (the adult ones are full of women aged 32 up who want a flash buisness man)
Good evening, everyone. I'v been reading with interest, since my friend and I are looking for girlfriends (I haven't been out with a girl for 9 years and I'm only 21!) Any advice about meeting them and talking to them? Most girls in bars nowadays seem to hang out with a group. Are there any single girls round my age that are on this forum, or is this now getting into inappropriateness? (wow, that's a long word! does that word even exist?)
In my early years i was pretty quiet , thanks to mr vodka my confidence grew and it was much easier to chat to girls !
In bars/pubs i always found it very hard to talk to girls, on one hand i thought 'sod it', if she liked me she would talk, if she didnt then no need to get embarassed, at least i know and dont waste my time.
But me and all my mates really only got chatting to new girls late on in a pub or more often or not a club. Find a straggler and the pack circle her and swoop in !
Seriously i always found clubs the best place to talk to them never pubs really. Just be friendly and be yourself, when you see soooo many idiots love themselves and really throw themselves at girls doing some cheesy dance moves or stupid chat up lines you realise that you are a good bloke and girls will like you.
Also you must have female friends or sisters of friends etc, try to go out with them as friends and then get introduced to their mates, mates of their mates eventually, becomes a huge chain and go from there. More often than not the nicest girls you meet are friends you know or friends of a friend in a group you go round with.
Using WOS as a dating service i wouldnt bother with !
But dont panic too much, i wasnt successful at all in my younger years and my confidence was low but believe me you'll be posting here in 5 years time talking about all these girls you meet ! There are many girls saying exactly the same thing to their mates about not being able to meet blokes easily
When i was young (18-21) my best mate was mr funny , mr loud and confident so i was his quiet wingman which wasnt great. But looking back now i was too keen if i met a girl, the best thing is to take your time, not saying act like the Fonz and too cool and stand-offish but a lot of girls back then never seemed to like 'mr nice guy'.
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The last time we organised a minibus for a lads piss up, the driver was an alcoholic epileptic. Honestly.
One of the lads new him well, as he'd been sacked by a few firms, but was now working for a new one.
He seemed a decent driver to me. Then again I was steaming.
Only in Wales....
She was a exchange student from the US: We met in the Students Union both waiting for someone who never turned up.
The best way to meet someone is go to join a club.. i.e Sport or night school activity.
Its garenteed that in a club e.t.c there will be people who have joined purely with the intention of meeting someone.
I have known frends that have used Dating agencies, their relationships never seemed to go the distance...It would seem that with that system people are to keen to rush in. Once they are in at the deepend the realise that they were more interested in finding a partner than finding someone they were truely compatible with.
Then again my Wife's sister met her husband via a dating agency and they are what I would call perfect for each other.
most forums are dating sites if you pick one with loads of wimmin on :)
errrrrrrrrrrrm
Time to be Mr Controversial ! - But on the other hand you dont know any different ? When i was 20 and met my first main proper girlfriend for a long period i thought it was the best thing ever, she was the one etc but eventually it fell apart.
Best thing i did was to 'get it out of my system' in my 20's and then settle down. Experience different relationships, different girls etc. All my mates who got married in their early 20's are all divorced now. They thought they had met 'the one' just because it was their first proper relationship which lasted a few years.
Also Miles, dont get married within two years of meeting a girl , if you last a few years the first two years are amazing, you arent thinking straight though so dont do anything silly !
If you have met the one fair play to ya but i'm very anti-get married to your first big real love. I dont mean any offence !
It is funny some of the photos people use though, its like David Brent in the Office Special when he has a really old cheesy photo of himself. Some of the pics i saw before i met a couple looked very very different from real life.
I wouldnt worry too much about what you write on those sites, at the end of the day its when you meet em what counts. We're taking the mick out of dating websites etc but apparently the people using them nowadays arent that bad at all compared to yesteryear
So I'd chat to her, with the webcam on - facing a photograph of her.
Bizarre girl. I thought, why doesn't she just put that pic on her profile. That way I would have known to avoid her in the first place. Moose.
I didn't get to see her tits either... Complete waste of my time.
thats why i asked, apparently there is no shame in it anymore.
were all metrosexuals with no time to find love in today's hectic lifestyle, apparently.
Similar to a job - it's easier to find one from another one. I used to treat girls in that way (very chauvinistic I know). I'd get off with a ropey one, just for the sex / company, while shopping around for an upgrade and so on. That way you're getting your end away and not frustrated while you are looking about.
It is true though. When you find a decent girl, you find you are more in demand with other girls. Probably because you are under no pressure to get one and you're more relaxed / natural with them. Plus insight from your girlfriend always helps with understanding other girls.
Great point ! Always the way isnt it ! Presume us blokes must send off different vibes when we're attached/single. But yeah very frustrating when that happens !
I do think Miles should have a special 'David Brent' pose photo in a white suit to put on his file !
If you had some dating forum, then yeah maybe you'd get something. Dating Websites?!? What is this 1994? :-D
Bit of a sceptic on the meeting someone who works in the same industry - don't know though - could work perhaps?
What happens when your not the parting sort - meeting people at parties might only get you to more parties (which you don't want). How do shy people get themselves out there?!?
(although i have to admit i have used a five year old pic. black and white too, to make it look classy)
You mean you didn't use that avatar? :grin:
ha ha that would be funny.
'i dont have a picture, but i have a graphical representation of me.)
Mr Controversial .... more like mister Pessimistic. ... maybe you had your heart broke once or twice but that’s still no need to be one of those preachy preachy “Woman did me wrong “ pessimistic multiple divorcee stereo types. ( no offence just kidding).
For a start of I'm 30. I have had my share of break-ups. 6 Months Before I met my Wife I had been engaged in a four year relationship that came to a sad and sorry end. Looking back it was the best thing to happen to me.
Yes In most circumstances maybe getting married in under two years is something to be careful of. However, if you think you have found misses/mr right go for it is worth the Gamble because the payoff is so great… However, do be sure to check with some close friends or family as they may observe things you don’t. It’s a better way to get a clear picture.
Anyways Mile has not even got someone in mind yet let alone all this ^^. :eek:
i would never jump into marriage, unless she had a massive amount of money, or was a famous pop star.
Yeah i know what you mean, often when something seems really bad it turns out to be a good thing. Like i say with me losing my job (i was gutted) finally getting this other job eventually led to me and the missus getting together so it all ends well.
Remember on Ch4 you had those programs where they look back at people from 5 or 10 years ago and they keep doing that ? Very interesting the changes in some of them, when i look at me and my friends, 5, 10 years ago its amazing how things change regarding gf's etc
Even the ginger one out of Girls Aloud or Alison Moyet ?
yeah the ginger one is more or less in my leauge, so i wouldn't be in the 'what's she going out with him for' section in heat.
funny thing is, it's opposite for women.
if one tells you she's single, you automatically think she's up for a shag. but if she has a partner, you back off, in fear of getting your head kicked in by her bf.
if one tells you she's single, you automatically think she's up for a shag. but if she has a partner, you back off, in fear of getting your head kicked in by her bf.
Unless you kick his head in first! :-D
Actually that's a very good test of character because if she feels pity & is soft she'll run for the victim, though anyone who backs the bully is simply cold & personally I can't see how I could go out with someone who's cold.
But that's life though, many people I meet in my travels are booked out & the opportunistic meter plummits to zero.
CP/M User.
go on a dating website, they are some for yonger people. (the adult ones are full of women aged 32 up who want a flash buisness man)
..or try approaching lone women in the park.
In my early years i was pretty quiet , thanks to mr vodka my confidence grew and it was much easier to chat to girls !
In bars/pubs i always found it very hard to talk to girls, on one hand i thought 'sod it', if she liked me she would talk, if she didnt then no need to get embarassed, at least i know and dont waste my time.
But me and all my mates really only got chatting to new girls late on in a pub or more often or not a club. Find a straggler and the pack circle her and swoop in !
Seriously i always found clubs the best place to talk to them never pubs really. Just be friendly and be yourself, when you see soooo many idiots love themselves and really throw themselves at girls doing some cheesy dance moves or stupid chat up lines you realise that you are a good bloke and girls will like you.
Also you must have female friends or sisters of friends etc, try to go out with them as friends and then get introduced to their mates, mates of their mates eventually, becomes a huge chain and go from there. More often than not the nicest girls you meet are friends you know or friends of a friend in a group you go round with.
Using WOS as a dating service i wouldnt bother with !
But dont panic too much, i wasnt successful at all in my younger years and my confidence was low but believe me you'll be posting here in 5 years time talking about all these girls you meet ! There are many girls saying exactly the same thing to their mates about not being able to meet blokes easily
When i was young (18-21) my best mate was mr funny , mr loud and confident so i was his quiet wingman which wasnt great. But looking back now i was too keen if i met a girl, the best thing is to take your time, not saying act like the Fonz and too cool and stand-offish but a lot of girls back then never seemed to like 'mr nice guy'.