Well, it's over...
Today, I got the letter in the post I was hoping would not arrive..
The wife and I have been having some problems during the year and my health issues have not helped things.
A month ago, she took our two youngest girls and went to stay with her sister and I hoped we could sort things out..
This morning, I received a letter saying she had filed for divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable differences. I don't know what brought this on, as I've always been faithful to her in the seventeen years we were together.
Thankfully, she doesn't want anything from me, which is just as well since she was the one with the money (her job paid more than mine and she comes from a family with money) or what she brought for the household, just her personal belongings and related items.
She also wants primary custody of our two youngest (Hermione and Serenity) with me given unsupervised visitation rights (as and when my health permits) and she wants to give our eldest daughter the chance to choose who she wants to be with. As she's 14, there is no reason why she can't make that choice.
As I said, I'm at a loss about this whole thing - I honestly can't see her cheating and I've been totally loyal to her.
Prolonging this isn't going to be any good for the children so I'm going to agree to it and get it finalized ASAP.
PS: She never had a problem with my retro collecting although it did fascinate her as to why people like to collect the old machines and games.
The wife and I have been having some problems during the year and my health issues have not helped things.
A month ago, she took our two youngest girls and went to stay with her sister and I hoped we could sort things out..
This morning, I received a letter saying she had filed for divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable differences. I don't know what brought this on, as I've always been faithful to her in the seventeen years we were together.
Thankfully, she doesn't want anything from me, which is just as well since she was the one with the money (her job paid more than mine and she comes from a family with money) or what she brought for the household, just her personal belongings and related items.
She also wants primary custody of our two youngest (Hermione and Serenity) with me given unsupervised visitation rights (as and when my health permits) and she wants to give our eldest daughter the chance to choose who she wants to be with. As she's 14, there is no reason why she can't make that choice.
As I said, I'm at a loss about this whole thing - I honestly can't see her cheating and I've been totally loyal to her.
Prolonging this isn't going to be any good for the children so I'm going to agree to it and get it finalized ASAP.
PS: She never had a problem with my retro collecting although it did fascinate her as to why people like to collect the old machines and games.
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Perhaps you can arrange to meet up and talk before finalising things.17 years is a long time to just walk away from.
Is your wife still staying with her sister? It's gonna be a lot difference being on her own than having her sister supporting her for the last month.
But I'm going to take Rebelstar's advice and try to talk things over with her before signing anything.
I don't think she's with her sister now..
Whatever happens, it sounds like you've both got the kids' interests as your number 1 priority, which is good to hear.
Hope things pick up for you soon and work out somehow.
..on a positive note, things will get better eventually and you might then decide it was a good thing..
I was like that when I got divorced, devastated at first but now happy it happened as the girl I'm with now is a much better....erm deal.
Hope the health improves too.
I've rung her up and she's agreed to meet up later on and talk but she won't promise anything but whatever happens, we'll put the children first. It would be a shame if 17 years was to be signed away just like that. (We were together for three years before marrying)
Amy, I found in seventeen years, when she's determined about something, she'll go through with it, no matter what.
Sorry to hear about this Zero, don't really know what else to say really?
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Just remember us Wosser's are always here for a natter if you need one!
I too hope things start to get better for you soon.
Been through divorce before, not nice :cry:
We spoke earlier and she told me she was feeling very unhappy about the relationship for a while now and wants to get out before she got even more unhappy. I don't blame her. I can't see a reconciliation happening.
We will avoid court for the sake of the children. I'll be going over the papers before signing anything with my mother's solicitor who dealt with both her divorces..
She has money left to her by her father (?10,000+) but I don't want any of it. We're in agreement about what we get.
Good news - I'm off the beta-blockers I was on but have another check-up next month.
Don't let this break you, after all what would Gloria Gaynor do?
You must be strong now, mate. Life is a wheel of fortune, sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. Better days will come for you one day too, maybe just not today.
D.
Thanks for the very kind words..
My family is important to me and I vowed years ago that if my marriage was to fail, I wouldn't let my children suffer through it like I did when my parents divorced (after that happened, I never saw anyone on my dad's side of the family again and the next I knew about any of them, nearly 20 years later, I heard two had died, including my grandfather).
Dunny - no, she was NOT one who turned out to be a porn star.. I've only ever posted one picture of her (and I got into big trouble with her for that) and that was a picture of when we renewed our vows some years ago. I don't know where you got that idea from but I can assure you that it had nothing to do with me. I don't know what sort of person you think I am that would post indecent pictures of my (now ex) missus, especially on a board like this. Now you've made me feel even more depressed thinking someone has been posting fraudulent pictures either under my name or another name (I have an idea who might do such a thing and if I can prove it, he's dead).
Regardless of what sort of person you think you are, rest assured that she had her tits covered up. Classy lady, your Amy, I can tell she doesn't just get them out for just any photographer! :-D
D.