Just back on the site after a long weekend, so catching up on this difficult story. All the best with it all, Boozy, and we're always here for a chat as you know :)
Aw **** dude. Sorry to hear that. As most have said already, we're hear if you need help and a laugh.
Oh, no. Every time you turn up something monumental and terrible happens.
I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
sorry to hear your news.. do you skype with her also ?
people don't expect anyone in that situation to be.. you know, full of the joys of 8 bit.
my dad is coming up to 80 and his mum only passed away 2 years ago, and it still hit him hard.. I said , all them years he had her vs a few of my friends who lost a parent in their 10 to teens (5 people come to mind)
I hope you do get some quality time with her.. you have relatives who can help etc?
sorry to hear that DM. I know it's not an easy thing to have to go through, you just have to stay positive for your mum. We're always here for a chat, it can sometimes help.
I spoke to my ma yesterday she's doing OK for now, basically says she doesn't want loads of people knowing and doesn't want people fussing over her or to quote her at one point "I don't want any bugger cooking for me I'll do it me bloody self!".
So that was me told straight! :o
We've basically been discussing certain legalities over the phone, and things we can do together just me and her when I finally fly home. My wife is probably coming with me, but for once she says she'll let me make all the decisions :o
I saw zx1's name and thought, wonder if he's set up WOShire farms delivery service :o:o:o .. I'll just have to wait till I see next seasons dragons den :)
(it's a similar company that provides frozen meals to older folk)
It is just about 2 weeks that a friend of mine was released from a hospital after over 9 months. He is just 32 and the diagnose was leukemia. He went through all the processes, he was closely not to do it for few times. Now he is after transplantation and doing well. But still, there is this period that he can get an infection and die in a matter of few hours. His son is just 1 year old now.
I was visiting him as often as was possible for me, it was a nightmare to see him disappearing so fast. But most horrible was the feeling of helplessness.
But then it came to me. Important is to be there, because what ever the end will be, you will be asking yourself where were you that time. If you will spend the time with your mother, it will be not wasted one. And that is important. Enjoy the time how ever hard it is (and will be), enjoy her doing a meal for you until she still can. That is the only way how the illness never win!
On the other hand, now you have an opportunity to enjoy real English beer and that is not bad, or? :)
My ma passed away yesterday afternoon at 1:10pm, she did her usual thing of not wanting to bother anybody, and that is...I sat with her for 3 very long days, and when Mrs. Boozy and my best friends dad convinced me to go and get a few minutes fresh air, I literally walked out of the house, and the paleative care worker said her eyes opened and she was gone :(
I was really upset at first because I wanted to hold her hand at the moment, but it was so precise that everyone thinks, and I'm inclined to believe it that my ma held on til' I left the house because she didn't want me to see it. My best friends sister found me on the road in Spar of all places and told me I needed to go home now.
.
I got there, and when my best mates dad told me I think I had my first panic attack ever, I'd prepared myself but I couldn't breathe had to sit down, had no idea what to do, and found myself uncontrollably sobbing into my wifes thigh.
I had an extra slap in the face today, I re-homed my ma's cats, after a week or so of looking for a charity or shelter with a no-kill policy we found a place in Maccum land of all places...pfffff! But seriously these people took all 3 of my ma's remaining cats. I couldn't go there with my best mates dad to give them to the people. I'll be honest 2 of them I don't really give a **** about, but the oldest cat I hand reared with a milk bottle when I was 20 years old, and she was shivering after I put her in the carrier. I just couldn't go. I feel horrible, but I can't take them back to the states, 2 of the 3 cats wouldn't survive the quarantine to the US...I couldn't put them through that.
Either way that's it....:(
I know I have a lot of friends and support on here, and I'd like for anybody who wants to reply to me to be able to, but can I ask foggy or karingal to lock this thread 1 week from now to give anybody who wants to reply to me a chance to, I'm not sure I can handle this thread popping up again in a few months time or whatever, and anybody who would reply to it probably will within a week anyway.
Sorry if this puts a damper on anybody's day, but I said I''d keep people posted, and here it is, doesn't get any realer than that. I may be on WOS again soon I have a lot of things I'd like to reply to, but I have weeks worth of stuff to read through.
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I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
https://www.youtube.com/user/VincentTSFP
people don't expect anyone in that situation to be.. you know, full of the joys of 8 bit.
my dad is coming up to 80 and his mum only passed away 2 years ago, and it still hit him hard.. I said , all them years he had her vs a few of my friends who lost a parent in their 10 to teens (5 people come to mind)
I hope you do get some quality time with her.. you have relatives who can help etc?
Best wishes
Lloyd.
There's a strange irony about this message?....I can't quite put my finger on it? ;)
There, I've signed in using my old account!
Stay strong :(
DEATHs first name is Lloyd?!
For some reason, I always thought DEATHs first name would have been "Richard".
Yeah, he's my brother :)
B
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You're only jealous Mr B ;)
I spoke to my ma yesterday she's doing OK for now, basically says she doesn't want loads of people knowing and doesn't want people fussing over her or to quote her at one point "I don't want any bugger cooking for me I'll do it me bloody self!".
So that was me told straight! :o
We've basically been discussing certain legalities over the phone, and things we can do together just me and her when I finally fly home. My wife is probably coming with me, but for once she says she'll let me make all the decisions :o
Think I might want that in writing ;)
Maybe she's seen the saucer thread.. :lol:
:lol:
I can hear the conversation now: -
boozy - "Areet Ma pet? Al be ovva ti cuk ya'meals in a few days...bin getting some ideas from tha'internet for pizza like..."
Ma boozy - "I don't want any bugger cooking for me I'll do it me bloody self!"
I'll send her one of my pizzas.......:grin:
That'll finish her off long before her time is up, I think I'll just let her make herself a sandwich :p
:grin:
(it's a similar company that provides frozen meals to older folk)
I was visiting him as often as was possible for me, it was a nightmare to see him disappearing so fast. But most horrible was the feeling of helplessness.
But then it came to me. Important is to be there, because what ever the end will be, you will be asking yourself where were you that time. If you will spend the time with your mother, it will be not wasted one. And that is important. Enjoy the time how ever hard it is (and will be), enjoy her doing a meal for you until she still can. That is the only way how the illness never win!
On the other hand, now you have an opportunity to enjoy real English beer and that is not bad, or? :)
Good luck!
My ma passed away yesterday afternoon at 1:10pm, she did her usual thing of not wanting to bother anybody, and that is...I sat with her for 3 very long days, and when Mrs. Boozy and my best friends dad convinced me to go and get a few minutes fresh air, I literally walked out of the house, and the paleative care worker said her eyes opened and she was gone :(
I was really upset at first because I wanted to hold her hand at the moment, but it was so precise that everyone thinks, and I'm inclined to believe it that my ma held on til' I left the house because she didn't want me to see it. My best friends sister found me on the road in Spar of all places and told me I needed to go home now.
.
I got there, and when my best mates dad told me I think I had my first panic attack ever, I'd prepared myself but I couldn't breathe had to sit down, had no idea what to do, and found myself uncontrollably sobbing into my wifes thigh.
I had an extra slap in the face today, I re-homed my ma's cats, after a week or so of looking for a charity or shelter with a no-kill policy we found a place in Maccum land of all places...pfffff! But seriously these people took all 3 of my ma's remaining cats. I couldn't go there with my best mates dad to give them to the people. I'll be honest 2 of them I don't really give a **** about, but the oldest cat I hand reared with a milk bottle when I was 20 years old, and she was shivering after I put her in the carrier. I just couldn't go. I feel horrible, but I can't take them back to the states, 2 of the 3 cats wouldn't survive the quarantine to the US...I couldn't put them through that.
Either way that's it....:(
I know I have a lot of friends and support on here, and I'd like for anybody who wants to reply to me to be able to, but can I ask foggy or karingal to lock this thread 1 week from now to give anybody who wants to reply to me a chance to, I'm not sure I can handle this thread popping up again in a few months time or whatever, and anybody who would reply to it probably will within a week anyway.
Sorry if this puts a damper on anybody's day, but I said I''d keep people posted, and here it is, doesn't get any realer than that. I may be on WOS again soon I have a lot of things I'd like to reply to, but I have weeks worth of stuff to read through.
Your mate
Boozy :)