As the others have said, we're here if you need us mate.
Sorry to hear that mate. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. I went through the same thing with my Dad almost 3 years ago now, although he was in the States with me. My Mum is in the UK though and I am sure I will go through something similar to you one day.
For a long time it feels like you will never smile again, but it truly does get better. Honor her by remembering the best times you had together.
I've just spent most of the day dealing with the paperwork, and sorting out the funeral arrangements. Tonight has been the heady and difficult task of going through my ma's call list on her phone, and all her old phone books and trying to call all her friends and wotnot to let them know.
It's killing me, it's the least fun you can have with a phone :(
I lost my mum to cancer 21 years ago last month. I know something about what you will be going through, and that there really are no words at this point.
My thoughts are with you and your family. Hang in there.
I just saw this thread and before it gets locked for completely understandable reasons, may I extend my sincere condolences to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.
Thanks again for the replies people it means a lot to me, I've just got back from the funeral, and it was really nice Humanist service. Basically it was quite small and modest, and I'm glad that the people who showed up were the people who showed up. Everybody at the service and the wake were people who were genuine friends and colleagues of my ma.
I'm so glad I didn't end up with any freeloader types, I was expecting a load of people I hadn't seen in forever show up to pay their respects whilst obviously enjoying the free food, and the fact I put a wad of cash behind the bar and told the barman who's an old school mate of mine serve them til' the cash runs out then they can get their hands in their pockets. I actually ended up with a little change from the wad, so I gave it to him at the end to get himself a few beers.
I've got closure too, I was allowed to put my gran and my step dads ashes in with my ma, so now I don't have to worry about what to do with well to put it bluntly the remains of my entire family.
It's been a hard day, but at the same time it's been a relief and I've had time to catch up with a few of my old friends and a lot of people that actually meant something to my ma.
I'm glad that things went as well as could be expected, I hope you and your family can now start to come to terms with things. Just remember that you still have your own family for comfort and people who are here and elsewhere for support ! Take care mate !
Every time I read that the oldest person in the world has died, I have to do a quick check to see it isn't ME..........
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As the others have said, we're here if you need us mate.
Sorry to hear that mate. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. I went through the same thing with my Dad almost 3 years ago now, although he was in the States with me. My Mum is in the UK though and I am sure I will go through something similar to you one day.
For a long time it feels like you will never smile again, but it truly does get better. Honor her by remembering the best times you had together.
It really means a lot to me.
I've just spent most of the day dealing with the paperwork, and sorting out the funeral arrangements. Tonight has been the heady and difficult task of going through my ma's call list on her phone, and all her old phone books and trying to call all her friends and wotnot to let them know.
It's killing me, it's the least fun you can have with a phone :(
I lost my mum to cancer 21 years ago last month. I know something about what you will be going through, and that there really are no words at this point.
My thoughts are with you and your family. Hang in there.
Not easy to take, even if it was expected.
Will.
Wish you and your family all the strength you need to get through this difficult period.
I'm so glad I didn't end up with any freeloader types, I was expecting a load of people I hadn't seen in forever show up to pay their respects whilst obviously enjoying the free food, and the fact I put a wad of cash behind the bar and told the barman who's an old school mate of mine serve them til' the cash runs out then they can get their hands in their pockets. I actually ended up with a little change from the wad, so I gave it to him at the end to get himself a few beers.
I've got closure too, I was allowed to put my gran and my step dads ashes in with my ma, so now I don't have to worry about what to do with well to put it bluntly the remains of my entire family.
It's been a hard day, but at the same time it's been a relief and I've had time to catch up with a few of my old friends and a lot of people that actually meant something to my ma.
Thanks again for the well wishes
Boozy :)
My thoughts go to you and your family. Sincere condoleances - stay strong mate.