Age-Gap Relationships
Here's one for the WoS Problem Page. Actually it's not really a problem more of a query.
Disclaimer: this is not just a thread to show off about dating a younger lady. Honest ;)
What are people's views on relationships where the age gap between the couple is quite significant?
I'm 37 and have recently starting dating a 21 year old. Things are going fine but it's quite noticable that our points of reference are way different re. films, movies, books and just general experience of things. She hasn't even heard of the speccy. Mind you, my first speccy era had ended before she was born :-o Now, I realise that this can happen with couples of a similar age but with different backgrounds/interests etc but obviously age differences can make this more apparent.
When I was 21 I was dating a 35 year old and between times I've mainly been with ladies my own age so I've seen both sides to it.
Anybody reckon this type of thing can work out? I have my doubts to be honest, but it'll be fun finding out :)
Disclaimer: this is not just a thread to show off about dating a younger lady. Honest ;)
What are people's views on relationships where the age gap between the couple is quite significant?
I'm 37 and have recently starting dating a 21 year old. Things are going fine but it's quite noticable that our points of reference are way different re. films, movies, books and just general experience of things. She hasn't even heard of the speccy. Mind you, my first speccy era had ended before she was born :-o Now, I realise that this can happen with couples of a similar age but with different backgrounds/interests etc but obviously age differences can make this more apparent.
When I was 21 I was dating a 35 year old and between times I've mainly been with ladies my own age so I've seen both sides to it.
Anybody reckon this type of thing can work out? I have my doubts to be honest, but it'll be fun finding out :)
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Speaking from personal experience, YES! it can definitely work out.
But much of it depends on some factor of both of you.
Is she near your level of "maturity" (assuming you normally behave like a 37 year old ... and not like a 16 y.o.(unless both of you behave like 21, then No Worries Mate!))
Do your conversations and activities together outweigh your cultural backgrounds? (I.e. you grew up at a certain time/place while she grew up at a different point of time/place, etc, etc)
Anywho ... the long and short of it is this, of course it can either way you ninny!
I did play her some Captain Beefheart recently and she said 'I hate it'. Mind you, plenty of other people of all ages have said the same thing :razz: With her taste in music I might finally find out what the appeal is with this rap, r&b thing.
there are only 2 women so far I would have married, her and my last long term girlfriend. (the last one did something to worry me, to mess things up.. to make me think it was a bad omen)
both time I do think I was batting out of my league though.
I had a g/f same age as me when I was 28.. she was horrid and found out she had "issues". I had a g/f 3 years older than me when I was 30.. she also was horrid *BUT* immature in her actions
this was all pre-getting old / fat / bald obviously :D
as long as you are happy,and you aren't hurting anyone.. sod what anyone else things. Maturity doesn't also go with age, there are silly old folk about.
it'd be nice to meet someone , but some of the dates in the past few years I've been on.. there is an awful lot of gold diggers out there esp. living in london.
I played some Primus to a certain someone back in the day and she said "Wow! Hey I like that!" ... then we promptly got married and eventually divorced but I did get to keep my Primus collection but she got everything Mike Oldfield related ... she didn't want any of my retro stuff. A later wife got all that when we split up (minus the Speccy stuff, she had some sympathy for me in that regard.) And I still have my Primus stuff.
We've had the conversation where we've both kinda questioned why we're with each other:
her:because she thinks my life is sorted and she considers me some kind of intellectual that she can't compete with (that's hogwash of course)
me: because I wonder why this beautiful, young girl (who could probably choose anyone she wanted) is with me.
I think the insecurities on both sides can come out a bit more in this situation but, as you say, it can occur in any relationship.
Best not to overthink things sometimes and just enjoy it for what it is.
L.O.L.
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Her step-dad is 4 years older than me :-o
I do sometimes have to stop myself from being like that though. She has said 'yeah, ok dad' a few times. Mind you, that was when I asked her if she was eating properly after she was ill so I only had myself to blame :-P
The good news is she loves Partridge so i think she's a keeper.
Back of the net!
My g/f is 14yrs younger than me...when I was buying a new phone at the AT&T store the guy serving me said
"Does your daughter need a new phone too"?
I said "She's not my daughter"
he said "Alriggggght!"
:lol:
Theres a garry glitter joke there, but i'll leave it to mile :-P
But what the hell, whatever works for you, go with it.. :smile:
You lucky, lucky bar steward :grin:
We did have alot in common as she was a keen gamer (RPG's were her thing) but in the end, the age gap just didn't work and she waltz'd off with someone her own age who cheated on her after 2 months.
She wondered why I wouldn't take her back...
I'm invoking Rule #1: -
- Pictures, or it's not real!
:D
WHY?!?!?!?!?!?
WELL.......?!?!?!?!?!?
Because she ran off with someone else while we were together and in my experience, if it's happened once then it'll happen again. I got hurt and I wasn't going to let her hurt me again. Even if she was fit ;-)
Here, the age difference is very obvious:
Here you go:
http://live.drjays.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/annahoward.jpg
:smile:
it reminded me of someone who is a dirty old man (someone my brother in laws knows) , I nicknamed him qagmire .. the woman in question he dated. her dad is only 4 years older than the bloke.. think the age gap was 20+ years.. dunno, I do remember the bloke perving an ex of mine at a funeral of all places, others did too and I had to have a word about it.
womens ages and maturity aren't always.. get older / more mature.. only can say that for cheese I guess :D