dating websites?

edited October 2006 in Chit chat
has anyone done this sort of thing?

my mate went on a couple of years ago. i made fun of him, but he's getting married at the end of the year, and i'm looking forward to another christmas alone.

is it worth the effort, or should i just let fate decide my love life?
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  • edited October 2006
    Have you seen the recently-published stats for replies, dates, successful relationships, etc? It's not confidence-inspiring that this sort of thing works well enough.
  • edited October 2006
    Must admit during my single years after splitting up with the long term gf i met a fair few off the net. Only for about 9 months or so but was a laugh, there was a site for ICQ members where you basically emailed and met up with a fair few of them, some of them were very nice, others just wanted one nighters (which back then i was quite happy with !).

    But there were a helluva lot of saddos on there. Its worth doing for a laugh as long as youre not expecting to find 'miss right' but you never know what may happen. If it doesnt work with one of them then become friends and you might like one of her friends, create a 'chain' sort of thing.

    All my mates who are now single (34 years old) are panicking a bit as all the nice girls are now married, the only single ones they know are divorcees or nice girls but have kids from their ex's.

    Just branch out more, too many people just stay in the same town expecting miss right to appear out of the blue. Try speed dating ! Thats meant to be good !
  • edited October 2006
    they did a speed dating thing near to where i live. 50 quid it cost, which was a bit steep.
  • edited October 2006
    Blimey that is a bit steep ! Then again a night out on the town costs a fair bit and if you dont meet any lasses then it may not be worth it !

    I think you should go to one of these and report back !
  • edited October 2006
    psj3809 wrote:
    Blimey that is a bit steep ! Then again a night out on the town costs a fair bit and if you dont meet any lasses then it may not be worth it !

    I think you should go to one of these and report back !

    it might be a good way of meeting lots of women in one night, but it may turn into being rejected by lots of women in one night!
  • edited October 2006
    I haven't tried any dating sites - but I have met up with a few girls off the internet, but they have just ended up in one night action - or on a few occasions its gone on for a few weeks.

    It's great for non-serious stuff, but I don't recommend the internet for finding the right person. Most are desperate / saddos. I'm sure there are some genuinely nice people out there, but I think most of the nicer ladies dont need the internet to meet blokes.

    I'm living with someone now, so my days of chasing women are over (well, almost..) - Going out on the piss is an expensive way of finding a woman. I've done it for over 10 years, and the women / flings that have come out of it havent really warranted the cost / time involved.

    Speed dating looks a laugh and could work. I still think it is more likely to end in one-nighters though. A few mates had a go, and a few of them got a bit of sex out of it.

    I still think the best way of finding a woman is through work / friends / activities - eg/ gym or something. I'd just spread the word to female friends that you would like their help lining up some dates - I'm sure someone you know, knows someone who would like a date.
  • edited October 2006
    your right i think, just been on a few sites, and the results from searches were less than impressive.
  • edited October 2006
    Speed dating can work for you if you can be extrovert with complete strangers. It takes me a while to feel comfortable around new people, so wouldn't work for me.
  • edited October 2006
    I've always thought it's better to just meet people in general, rather than with dating in mind from the very beginning. It means there's no pressure, and if there are some kind of sparks ;) they become very obvious.
  • edited October 2006
    Most of my mates seem to end up with female friends who were originally in our 'group'. They began as friends and then eventually the next step, its good as you have a great 'foundation' and things can really develop.

    But like i say the worlds a huge place, so many people seem to 'limit' their searchs to just one town. My other mates who are single seem to be in the 'Truman Show' and wont leave the local town and then moan about theres 'no nice girls around' expecting the town to constantly supply nice girls week in week out instead of the same ones !

    A lot of people meet their partners at work but i've always found the motto 'dont dip your pen in the company ink' totally true as it can cause problems !
  • edited October 2006
    psj3809 wrote:
    Most of my mates seem to end up with female friends who were originally in our 'group'. They began as friends and then eventually the next step, its good as you have a great 'foundation' and things can really develop.

    But like i say the worlds a huge place, so many people seem to 'limit' their searchs to just one town. My other mates who are single seem to be in the 'Truman Show' and wont leave the local town and then moan about theres 'no nice girls around' expecting the town to constantly supply nice girls week in week out instead of the same ones !

    A lot of people meet their partners at work but i've always found the motto 'dont dip your pen in the company ink' totally true as it can cause problems !

    totally true. i have to see an ex everyday now at work. It was fun at the time, sneaking away for some ***, but now its really embaressing.
  • edited October 2006
    I totally agree with psj. Where I used to live, everyone just went to the same places, to see the same girls etc and just moaned about there not being many nice girls around. As soon as I left and moved to a bigger city it was amazing - tons of new women. Since I moved I have met tons more women and eventually found one I want to stay with.

    I try to convince my mates who moan about being single to make a break for it and move to a new place. I constantly get remarks like 'Its ok for you. You have a nice girlfriend'.. Which makes no sense as I only found her when I moved away.

    A complete change usually brings better things.
  • edited October 2006
    In the end i'm 'glad' i got made redundant, found a new job near Birmingham so i had to move away. In the 2 years i lived there i had 2 visits from one friend, the rest were stuck in their 'Truman Show' world ! But then i met the missus (she lived up north and we gave it a go as i lived closer in Brum not 'dan 'saff) and i eventually moved up even further north to be with her and finally got married etc !

    All my single mates seem to expect miss perfect to land on their doorstep living by their favourite pub ! Perhaps back when they were 18 or 21 there seemed a constant supply of new girls but now with most married/kids etc theres less and less.

    I still think its best to date tons in your 20's and then settle down in your 30's ! But now it seems very normal for people to be single 30-35. Had some great times obviously doing the dating thing/going to clubs all the time but on the other hand when you did leave on your own just like the Smiths song goes it was very depressing (Unlike the song i didnt go home and feel like i want to die though !)
  • edited October 2006
    dont get me wrong i dont have a problem meeting women, they just seem to be the wrong sort.

    out of the two girls i have dated this year, one was straying from her boyfriend, and the other was a posh girl wanting a bit of 'rough'.
  • edited October 2006
    Well the one straying from her boyfriend sounds like trouble ! Sounds like both of them just wanted sex and not much else, you need to find a lass who you want to take out and spend time with (not just in the bedroom !)

    Have a doubleheader this weekend and report back sunday on how it went

    Love Cilla
  • edited October 2006
    It's irritating. Studies show that more and more people are in their thirties and single, so this should mean there's plenty of dating opportunities. Unfortunately, we're also British, so the singles keep themselves to themselves to some degree, worsening their chances of getting together with someone!
  • edited October 2006
    psj3809 wrote:
    Well the one straying from her boyfriend sounds like trouble ! Sounds like both of them just wanted sex and not much else, you need to find a lass who you want to take out and spend time with (not just in the bedroom !)

    Have a doubleheader this weekend and report back sunday on how it went

    Love Cilla

    ah the elusive threesum. something ive never done.
  • edited October 2006
    mile wrote:
    ah the elusive threesum. something ive never done.

    I did many years ago with twins & it was crap*


    *I only said it was crap to make you feel better. It was f**king awsome!
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  • edited October 2006
    mile wrote:
    check out my gf's website - www.milemuncher.com

    So that is just a girl that is a friend then, or are you looking for a little bit fun on the side, eh?
  • edited October 2006
    I've got something for you to try.

    In american pie style, we spread a rumour around the local pub where a lot of friends drink that my mate Martin had a huge dick. We did it seriously and only told one girl. She soon spread it around the pub and by the end of the night, he had more attention than any one man I've ever seen. Kinda proves that women are just as filthy as blokes.

    Thing is, I think he ducked out of the opportunity of sex cos he thought he'd disappoint as they were expecting him to be hung like a donkey.

    So it didn't work.

    Scrap that idea.

    Chloroform is a good way to meet new women....
  • edited October 2006
    fogartylee wrote:
    I did many years ago with twins & it was crap*


    *I only said it was crap to make you feel better. It was f**king awsome!

    that's too close to incest.
  • edited October 2006
    MinerWilly wrote:
    So that is just a girl that is a friend then, or are you looking for a little bit fun on the side, eh?

    Is she a bike?
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  • edited October 2006
    MinerWilly wrote:
    So that is just a girl that is a friend then, or are you looking for a little bit fun on the side, eh?

    its meant to be a joke. :)
  • edited October 2006
    mile wrote:
    its meant to be a joke. :)

    Hell, i made a fool out of me again, my beanie must be sitting too tight!
  • edited October 2006
    MinerWilly wrote:
    Hell, i made a fool out of me again, my beanie must be sitting too tight!

    my fault for trying to be clever. :)
  • edited October 2006
    I've got something for you to try.

    In american pie style, we spread a rumour around the local pub where a lot of friends drink that my mate Martin had a huge dick. We did it seriously and only told one girl. She soon spread it around the pub and by the end of the night, he had more attention than any one man I've ever seen. Kinda proves that women are just as filthy as blokes.

    Thing is, I think he ducked out of the opportunity of sex cos he thought he'd disappoint as they were expecting him to be hung like a donkey.

    So it didn't work.

    Scrap that idea.

    Chloroform is a good way to meet new women....

    some bloke went around at work saying that about someone. thing is he did it a bit too much, in an obsessive kind of way.
  • edited October 2006
    Unrelated to the topic but funny anyway:

    When I was younger - a few times me & my mates would go to the back of the taxi queue and say 'if we give you a BJ will you take us home?' Every one of them would say no (thankfully). At the last taxi say 'Do you know where this address is, cos the others don't!' Then get in. All of his taxi driver mates will think he got a BJ off a bloke for a lift home!
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  • edited October 2006
    fogartylee wrote:
    Unrelated to the topic but funny anyway:

    When I was younger - a few times me & my mates would go to the back of the taxi queue and say 'if we give you a BJ will you take us home?' Every one of them would say no (thankfully). At the last taxi say 'Do you know where this address is, cos the others don't!' Then get in. All of his taxi driver mates will think he got a BJ off a bloke for a lift home!

    thats well funny, will have to try that one out.
  • edited October 2006
    Taxi drivers are awesome.

    I once got in a taxi with a mate and we decided to try and interogate the driver for some dodgy taxi driver stories. My mate said something like 'So.. You taxi drivers must get a fair bit of sex - with girls not being able to pay the fare etc... Anything like that happen to you?...'

    He replied with 'Nah, not with me mate... Its bullshit... Nothing like that happens..'

    We were both really dejected at his comment and kinda sat back disappointed.

    He saw how dissapointed we were, so he then said '... Apart from this one time.....'

    He then went into this story of insane sex, involving some dirty housewife from town, and her sister and so on...

    It was hilarious... Taxi drivers are so full of shit, but a great laff. If they havent got a tale about themselves, they know a few about other drivers..

    Try asking next time you get a taxi home from town after a piss up.
  • edited October 2006
    its hard to talk to taxi drivers up here. (bit of a language barrier, if you know what i mean.)
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