We had not long renewed our vows together. Most of my mothers family disowned me afterwoulds because I only invited Great Aunty Jean (the rest have been so horrible to Amy over the last 10 years - they never got invited to the original wedding either).
Good for you on all accounts.
There's no need to be horrible to people, especially when they're part of the family. Less stress for you guys, less Christmas/birthday prezzies to buy for other people so more money for yourselves :-D
Glad to hear the kids have been to visit. There's nothing worse than kids not being told/shown exactly what's going on so they can be at peace and not worry so much.
Best wishes to all.
Oh, no. Every time you turn up something monumental and terrible happens.
I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
If you see what Emma has been through, it would have been a crime not to tell her. Hermione is still too young to understand - all she knows is "mummy isn't very well at the moment".
October 2005 - my cousin (14) hating her opinion on Manchester Utd (he thinks opinions against them should be made illegal) beat her up. Both her legs were badly broken (she has brittle bones in her legs so they break with ease) and one of her arms were broken. I was attracted to the room by screams (she was in our bedroom playing on the PS2) and caught my cousin in the process of trying to rape her. He's doing heavy time for his crimes..
August 2006: Emma goes for an operation in the US to help improve teh bone structure in her legs. All seems well until she gets an infection in her right leg - unnoticed until our return to the UK and by then it's too late and she has to have it amputated. She gets on with a prosthetic leg these days - she got her new one the other day.
At college, Amy was a straight A student. People thought it was a weird mix - her and me.. I was one whose highest grade was a C in GCSE English - on the second attempt! People wispered when she was pregnant with Emma. Her dediation to her studies went to the point that she sat exams while heavily pregnant - she sat three the day before!
Mum in particular thougth Amy was no good for me and every time Amy was pregnant, she accused her of sleeping around.
Thanks again for all the kind words.
PS: I have very few friends in the real world so it's great to know I can rely on my fellow WOS buddies for support.
I wish you and your family all the best. I know there's nothing I can say to help matters, but I do know that talking about it is a good way of coping.
I do know that when my sister was killed several years ago that no-one would ever (and still never) talk about it, which isn't helpful. I hope that you can gain some comfort in knowing that your Spec-chums on here are all thinking about you at this time.
Shit. That's awful. Poor kid. I really hope Emma is doing okay. Your family are really having loads of unfair things happen to them. I really feel for all of you and yet I'm so impressed that you seem to be dealing with it so well. Well Done!
That's bad. I'm actually speechless. I don't know how you could've NOT murdered the bastard! And it's no wonder you're not speaking to your mum either. Good ridance to bad rubbish and it's helper I suppose.
At college, Amy was a straight A student. People thought it was a weird mix - her and me.. I was one whose highest grade was a C in GCSE English - on the second attempt! People wispered when she was pregnant with Emma. Her dediation to her studies went to the point that she sat exams while heavily pregnant - she sat three the day before!
Now that's some dedication! Was the day after the 3 exams her due date? Or did she hold the baby in so she'd be able to get the exams done :-D
Mum in particular thougth Amy was no good for me and every time Amy was pregnant, she accused her of sleeping around.
Again, I know people like that. A mate started dating a lass a few years ago and his parents thought she was a tramp to say the least. They split up but then got back together again later on. His parents was still against it. They got engaged about 2 years ago and his parents said that they'd give her a chance.
Yeah... right...
Everytime they were all together they'd be nicey nicey, but as soon as she'd left and he was either with her or somewhere else they'd do nothing but bitch and complain about her. All the way up to their wedding last year aswell. My mate kinda knew about all the bitching but he didn't want to rock the boat like before (he was in almost exactly the same boat about 7 years before and has a kid from back then aswell).
The wedding was fine and all the bitching stopped for a month or two, but after their bairn was born (due a month or two after the wedding) it all flared up again with the parents thinking that she'd been sleeping around a lot.
It got bad enough that they'd stop going round to his parents house (but me and another mate still went round almost every week because they were a great couple to speak to about absolutely anything) and they'd disowned him. Me and my mate were told that anything that was said in their house had to stay there. Nothing had to be told to their son. Yet every week they'd be speaking to people asking about how they were doing etc. They even kept asking me blatantly about them. Hypocritical or what?
They kept bitching about them (and the amount of time she spent in hospital - she's got a lot of problems) so me and my other mate just said that we weren't going to go round again until they could either stop bitching about them or they had finally seen sense and apologised to their son about the whole thing.
Anyways, that's too much info for your thread. (Even though there's a whole slew of thngs about this situation that hasn't even crossed my mind yet!)
PS: I have very few friends in the real world so it's great to know I can rely on my fellow WOS buddies for support.
You can always rely on us. We've got to stick up for our Speccy buddies!
Oh, no. Every time you turn up something monumental and terrible happens.
I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
Emma was due on July 6th. She was born in the college library (which was open on the weekends to help people with revision) on July 4th. I was making an amature James Bond film at the time.. (no-one could find me and I ended up missing the birth)
We still had exams after the birth so we took turns to look after her at college. She gained lots of 'arrrrrrrs' and 'ahhhhhhhs' and 'what a little cutie' from students and staff. At a college awards thing a few days before the end of term (they would have weird things to vote for), Emma was voted cutest female in college, beating someone who had won the same award two years in a row..
Mum refused to give Amy a chance. She hated it when we moved in together (but since the house was in my name since 1992 when my granddad died and left it to me, there was nothign she could do). On her side of the family, only my grandmother and youngest aunt were pro-Amy. (the aunt was the mother of the psycho cousin). Sadly, my gran died a month after Emma was born and my young aunt died last August (almost 8 years to the day my gran died).
Mum called Amy a slut (in public) for getting married heavily pregnant. (mum never got an invite due to two years of abuse and nastyness). Mum also accused her of getting pregnant in order to trick me into marrying her and even tried to demand a DNA test. (we refused) It's all and well mum not talking to me or Amy - we don't mind that but the fact she won't have anything to do with the girls either is treason and unforgivable. (whenever my mother is mentioned anywhere near Emma (and Amy is not around), she says something in Italian and I'm sure it's nothing polite (I don't know a word of it))
My dad and his family have been pro-Amy since day 1 (although dad and I have had issues in the past over the fact he left my mum in 1987).
Emma's had problems with broken legs for years. As I said, my avater picture is of her age 2.
Why can't parents be happy for their children when they have someone they love?
This is being a major help to me. Thank you very much..
This is terrible news and I can't say how bad it is to hear.
So much so it's taken me so long to actually post anything about 8 hours (I'm always scared I'll say something wrong).
Anyway I'm not going to patronise or dishonour you by saying I know how you're feeling, but my finacee miscarried in sept' 2005. So I do have a rough idea of what you're going through.
There's nothing more than sorry to hear of this that can be said, as words can't make it better.
We should all go find Freddy Krueger and do him over so she can get some proper sleep ;-)
Oh, no. Every time you turn up something monumental and terrible happens.
I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
Dude, I am so sorry for you and your family. From a couple of posts on threads we've replied to each other I know how much you were looking forward to being a dad again.
It sounds as though you and your missus are incredibly close, that's what will get you through this. I'm so pleased to hear that Amy is on the mend, I bet you've hardly known what time of day it is with worry.
I've just read further up about certain members of your family and I can fully sympathise. If ever you feel the need, contact me and we can swap horror stories about how our families have tried to mess up our lives. 2006 hit an all-time high, even for the cretins I unfortunately belong to...
Amy's blood pressure has started to go down. The doctors are going to pescribe blood pressure medication for her when she leaves hospital..
She is loved at her school - her tutor group asked the head teacher permission to take the day off to come and visit her (and they did).
Emma's starting to cheer up a bit. I took her and Hermione into town today - brought them McDonalds as a treat and Emma spend some of her Christmas money. For the first time since last week, she smiled.
Emma's starting to cheer up a bit. I took her and Hermione into town today - brought them McDonalds as a treat and Emma spend some of her Christmas money. For the first time since last week, she smiled.
*starts filling up again*
Professional Mel-the-Bell Simulator................"So realistic, I found myself reaching for the Kleenex King-Size!" - Richard Darling
I too have been through a similar situation. Sometimes the shitest things happen to the nicest people, it aint right, it aint fair and it's certainly not deserved.
You just gotta take it each day at a time.
I wish you luck, and hope you and your family find the strength to get through this.
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Andy
Good for you on all accounts.
There's no need to be horrible to people, especially when they're part of the family. Less stress for you guys, less Christmas/birthday prezzies to buy for other people so more money for yourselves :-D
Glad to hear the kids have been to visit. There's nothing worse than kids not being told/shown exactly what's going on so they can be at peace and not worry so much.
Best wishes to all.
I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
https://www.youtube.com/user/VincentTSFP
October 2005 - my cousin (14) hating her opinion on Manchester Utd (he thinks opinions against them should be made illegal) beat her up. Both her legs were badly broken (she has brittle bones in her legs so they break with ease) and one of her arms were broken. I was attracted to the room by screams (she was in our bedroom playing on the PS2) and caught my cousin in the process of trying to rape her. He's doing heavy time for his crimes..
August 2006: Emma goes for an operation in the US to help improve teh bone structure in her legs. All seems well until she gets an infection in her right leg - unnoticed until our return to the UK and by then it's too late and she has to have it amputated. She gets on with a prosthetic leg these days - she got her new one the other day.
At college, Amy was a straight A student. People thought it was a weird mix - her and me.. I was one whose highest grade was a C in GCSE English - on the second attempt! People wispered when she was pregnant with Emma. Her dediation to her studies went to the point that she sat exams while heavily pregnant - she sat three the day before!
Mum in particular thougth Amy was no good for me and every time Amy was pregnant, she accused her of sleeping around.
Thanks again for all the kind words.
PS: I have very few friends in the real world so it's great to know I can rely on my fellow WOS buddies for support.
I do know that when my sister was killed several years ago that no-one would ever (and still never) talk about it, which isn't helpful. I hope that you can gain some comfort in knowing that your Spec-chums on here are all thinking about you at this time.
Simon & Anita
Necros.
U would have thought my mother would care, but no.. she let him stay at her place when he was granted bail.
That's bad. I'm actually speechless. I don't know how you could've NOT murdered the bastard! And it's no wonder you're not speaking to your mum either. Good ridance to bad rubbish and it's helper I suppose.
Now that's some dedication! Was the day after the 3 exams her due date? Or did she hold the baby in so she'd be able to get the exams done :-D
Again, I know people like that. A mate started dating a lass a few years ago and his parents thought she was a tramp to say the least. They split up but then got back together again later on. His parents was still against it. They got engaged about 2 years ago and his parents said that they'd give her a chance.
Yeah... right...
Everytime they were all together they'd be nicey nicey, but as soon as she'd left and he was either with her or somewhere else they'd do nothing but bitch and complain about her. All the way up to their wedding last year aswell. My mate kinda knew about all the bitching but he didn't want to rock the boat like before (he was in almost exactly the same boat about 7 years before and has a kid from back then aswell).
The wedding was fine and all the bitching stopped for a month or two, but after their bairn was born (due a month or two after the wedding) it all flared up again with the parents thinking that she'd been sleeping around a lot.
It got bad enough that they'd stop going round to his parents house (but me and another mate still went round almost every week because they were a great couple to speak to about absolutely anything) and they'd disowned him. Me and my mate were told that anything that was said in their house had to stay there. Nothing had to be told to their son. Yet every week they'd be speaking to people asking about how they were doing etc. They even kept asking me blatantly about them. Hypocritical or what?
They kept bitching about them (and the amount of time she spent in hospital - she's got a lot of problems) so me and my other mate just said that we weren't going to go round again until they could either stop bitching about them or they had finally seen sense and apologised to their son about the whole thing.
Anyways, that's too much info for your thread. (Even though there's a whole slew of thngs about this situation that hasn't even crossed my mind yet!)
You can always rely on us. We've got to stick up for our Speccy buddies!
I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
https://www.youtube.com/user/VincentTSFP
We still had exams after the birth so we took turns to look after her at college. She gained lots of 'arrrrrrrs' and 'ahhhhhhhs' and 'what a little cutie' from students and staff. At a college awards thing a few days before the end of term (they would have weird things to vote for), Emma was voted cutest female in college, beating someone who had won the same award two years in a row..
Mum refused to give Amy a chance. She hated it when we moved in together (but since the house was in my name since 1992 when my granddad died and left it to me, there was nothign she could do). On her side of the family, only my grandmother and youngest aunt were pro-Amy. (the aunt was the mother of the psycho cousin). Sadly, my gran died a month after Emma was born and my young aunt died last August (almost 8 years to the day my gran died).
Mum called Amy a slut (in public) for getting married heavily pregnant. (mum never got an invite due to two years of abuse and nastyness). Mum also accused her of getting pregnant in order to trick me into marrying her and even tried to demand a DNA test. (we refused) It's all and well mum not talking to me or Amy - we don't mind that but the fact she won't have anything to do with the girls either is treason and unforgivable. (whenever my mother is mentioned anywhere near Emma (and Amy is not around), she says something in Italian and I'm sure it's nothing polite (I don't know a word of it))
My dad and his family have been pro-Amy since day 1 (although dad and I have had issues in the past over the fact he left my mum in 1987).
Emma's had problems with broken legs for years. As I said, my avater picture is of her age 2.
Why can't parents be happy for their children when they have someone they love?
This is being a major help to me. Thank you very much..
So much so it's taken me so long to actually post anything about 8 hours (I'm always scared I'll say something wrong).
Anyway I'm not going to patronise or dishonour you by saying I know how you're feeling, but my finacee miscarried in sept' 2005. So I do have a rough idea of what you're going through.
There's nothing more than sorry to hear of this that can be said, as words can't make it better.
Mine and Ambers condolences.
nuffing I can say really, except offer my condolences...
I called Amy half an hour ago and her blood pressure is starting to go down. She is having bad nightmares and is having trouble sleeping though.
The girls are alright - they're coming to me for tea tonight.
Thank you again for all the kind words. As I said, I'm going to show this lot to Amy and show that some people on the net care.
We should all go find Freddy Krueger and do him over so she can get some proper sleep ;-)
I don’t think I have the stomach for it.
--Raziel (Legend of Kain: Soul Reaver 2)
https://www.youtube.com/user/VincentTSFP
Tragic news, you have my sympathies.
It sounds as though you and your missus are incredibly close, that's what will get you through this. I'm so pleased to hear that Amy is on the mend, I bet you've hardly known what time of day it is with worry.
I've just read further up about certain members of your family and I can fully sympathise. If ever you feel the need, contact me and we can swap horror stories about how our families have tried to mess up our lives. 2006 hit an all-time high, even for the cretins I unfortunately belong to...
myles
So sorry to read your news. I have to go give my baby a hug now.
Dekh - give your baby a hug for me please.
Things are starting to look up..
Amy's blood pressure has started to go down. The doctors are going to pescribe blood pressure medication for her when she leaves hospital..
She is loved at her school - her tutor group asked the head teacher permission to take the day off to come and visit her (and they did).
Emma's starting to cheer up a bit. I took her and Hermione into town today - brought them McDonalds as a treat and Emma spend some of her Christmas money. For the first time since last week, she smiled.
*starts filling up again*
Because of neanderthal morons like that, I sometimes think football fandom should be outlawed. :(
My condolences as well...
misteaksmistrakesmisyaleserrurs— oh, sod it.You have my sincerest condolences.
You got me filling up now as well
Our thoughts are with you man!
I too have been through a similar situation. Sometimes the shitest things happen to the nicest people, it aint right, it aint fair and it's certainly not deserved.
You just gotta take it each day at a time.
I wish you luck, and hope you and your family find the strength to get through this.
So sorry once again.