a girl in my mind

edited June 2008 in Chit chat
I am missing a girlfriend. Newly I met little waitress in a bufet near my residence. She is very nice, has beautiful hair, but here is big problem : She is only 16 (I am 34). Maybe her father is as old as me, I could go for a beer with him (scarry). She has already face of woman, but mind of a pupil - she always talks about school. Should I let her be due to age abyss, or have I to effort for something ?
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  • edited June 2008
    let me ask you this, your 16 year old daughter's boyfriend is the same age as you and he ask's you out for a beer, what would you do.
  • edited June 2008
    chop983 wrote: »
    let me ask you this, your 16 year old daughter's boyfriend is the same age as you and he ask's you out for a beer, what would you do.

    it would be stupid.
  • edited June 2008
    i'd stay well away if i were you. she might be the age of consent but that doesn't mean an angry mob wont burn your house down.
  • edited June 2008
    Stay well clear of such a relationship :-o

    Well said Mile. Just because you can does not make it right in peoples minds.
  • edited June 2008
    Stay well clear. Shes a waitress in a cafe, its her job to be nice to people.

    Perhaps you are 'missing a girlfriend' as you say so as this girl has been nice to you suddenly youre starting to like her.

    You need to go out, get drunk with the guys at the weekend and meet someone. I'm 35 and i wouldnt even think of going near a 16 year old. Would feel very uncomfortable with that plus i know at 16 what my feelings were like, its just wrong.

    I mean as you say she talks about school lots, what have you got in common with her ? This coming from the guy who was asking what porn actress was on a certain website and that you've 'fallen in love' with a girl from a dodgy video from one of your other threads you started ? I dont think her dad would think you sound like great boyfriend material !

    Your opening line about 'I am missing a girlfriend'. Take your time to find one, dont fall for the first girl who seems to be nice to you (specially when shes 16). Girls hate desperate guys, just take your time and you'll meet someone but a 16 year old ? Come on !!! Wrong, wrong, wrong.
  • edited June 2008
    Is her mum available? ;)
  • edited June 2008
    Avon wrote: »
    Is her mum available? ;)
    Or her Gran? :razz:
    I wanna tell you a story 'bout a woman I know...
  • edited June 2008
    At 34 you should find a nice girl in her mid to late 20's and upwards.

    I think when you get to about 21 it becomes a bit uncomfortable dating someone of the age 16. Plus what would you have in common to talk about??

    Girls change allot between the ages of 16 to 18 and with an 18 year old its ok to have the age gap a bit bigger. At 25 I met an 18 year old and was with her for four years before she cheated on me. At 29 I met a 21 year old and am now married to her.

    I think at about 21 girls get less fickle in their relationships and are less likely to run around on you.

    Girls need time to play the field too these days, else if they don't they get itchy feet and start getting curious about what else is on offer (for better or worse).

    You date a a 16 year old, and you'll soon end up broken hearted, and you'll also have to answer to your conscience that will continually make you feel guilty. You will also feel the relationship is something to hide, be ashamed of... in the end it won't do wonders for your self esteem.

    Date someone much older that’s my advice.
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  • edited June 2008
    Scottie_uk wrote: »
    You data a 16 year old, and you'll soon end up broken hearted, and you'll also have to answer to your conscience that will continually make you feel guilty. You will also feel the relationship is something to hide, be ashamed of... in the end it won't do wonders for your self esteem.

    Date someone much older that?s my advice.


    You data a 16 year old, and you'll soon endup broken hearted, and you'll also have to anser to your concience that will continually make you feel guilty. You will also feel the relationship is somthing to hide, be ashamed of... in the end it won't do wonders for your self asteem.

    Date someone much older thats my advice.

    Are you a robot ? Have you got stuck ? Quick someone give Scottie a whack to sort him out ! ;)
  • edited June 2008
    What is not clear is if the 16yr old knows anyhing thing about this... Chances are she is bored and just making conversation. If she does not know your fealings and you tell her she may freak out. Either way someone will freak out..
  • edited June 2008
    psj3809 wrote: »
    Are you a robot ? Have you got stuck ? Quick someone give Scottie a whack to sort him out ! ;)
    lol... nah, he's just getting old and has started repeating himself ;)
  • edited June 2008
    psj3809 wrote: »
    Are you a robot ? Have you got stuck ? Quick someone give Scottie a whack to sort him out ! ;)

    nah, its the after effects of birthday beer.

    nah, its the after effects of birthday beer.

    nah, its the .....


    It thaught it was just me still seeing double.
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  • edited June 2008
    psj3809 wrote: »
    Are you a robot ? Have you got stuck ? Quick someone give Scottie a whack to sort him out ! ;)
    At last the truth is out. Scottie is a robot designed by Martijn to post crap on here 24 x 7 to make it look busy :-o

    Are Mel and Miles real?
  • edited June 2008
    IN31 wrote: »
    Are Mel and Miles real?
    You would hope not...
    I wanna tell you a story 'bout a woman I know...
  • edited June 2008
    I dated a 17 year old girl when I was 25, it didn't last long we had absolutely nothing in common and because of the age difference wanted different things from the relationship.


    Stick with the one you know and can rely on...

    ...your right hand.
    I wanna tell you a story 'bout a woman I know...
  • edited June 2008
    karingal wrote: »
    I dated a 17 year old girl when I was 25, it didn't last long we had absolutely nothing in common and because of the age difference wanted different things from the relationship.

    I always thought most relationships back then never lasted, i know theres some people here who are still with their first love but nowadays that seems more and more uncommon ?

    I would love to be a fly on the wall if he does ask her dad if he can date her though ! Probably have to wait for a while to hear what happens as he wont be able to type much on WOS once most of his body is broken !
  • edited June 2008
    Enjoy it while you can, it's not likely you'll ever get your hands on something as firm, sweet or legal ever again.
    And hope she doesn't shop you.
    Must run, I hear the footsteps of the morality police.
  • edited June 2008
    Must admit IF i was potentially thinking that i might ask out a 16 year old i would simply ask my friends what they thought and not complete strangers (on the whole) from an 80's computer forum ?

    My friends would then quickly tell me to get a life or sort myself out.

    Bit worried for bohusk !
  • edited June 2008
    With my first serious girlfriend the ages were the other way around - I was 17 and she was 26. It only lasted about 5 months (but WHAT a five months - made me the man I am today ;-) ) and in the end we parted as we simply wanted different things at that point in our lives. I don't regret it for a single second, but it's entirely different as there's not as much of a stigma for an older woman with a young man.

    My advice is go for it - simply ask her out and take it from there. You'll only be wondering "what if?" if you don't and you never know. You'll get some bigots calling you a cradle-snatcher and all that, but the fact is she is of legal age if those are your intentions!

    The only thing I'll say is if you're looking for a relationship don't expect it to last. Like it or not you belong in different worlds with an age gap like that and sooner or later she's going to want to spread her wings and I'm sorry to say you'll will most likely be to old for the ride.
  • edited June 2008
    Good point ! Its hypocritical as when its the other way round no one says much.

    I was 18 and went out with a 35 year old and like you say i had the time of my life ! But a 35 year old with an 18 year old people would think is wrong, but definately i would say a 16 year old (i mean months earlier she probably was 15 !).

    If she was 18 i dont think eyebrows would be raised so much but 16 ? But again someone who creates threads about 'who is the porn star' or 'watch this smutty video' i wouldnt want dating my 16 year old daughter i must admit !
  • edited June 2008
    Don't get emotionally attached. Bang the hell out of it for as long as you can....you're building memories for your retirement.

    Edit: Oh and take photos.
  • edited June 2008
    beanz wrote: »
    Don't get emotionally attached. Bang the hell out of it for as long as you can....you're building memories for your retirement.

    Edit: Oh and take photos.
    Wise words friend...
    I wanna tell you a story 'bout a woman I know...
  • edited June 2008
    before you bang the hell out of her and start taking photos of her, are you quite sure she is 16, girls lie all the time. sometimes its innocent like the colour of her her, or they will knock a few years off thier age. but if she is pretending to the 16 to look more mature you could end up in a secure unit getting fucked in the arse by jonathan king.
  • edited June 2008
    Wow there are some disturbing suggestions being posted... I guess no-one here has a young daughter?
  • edited June 2008
    mile wrote: »
    before you bang the hell out of her and start taking photos of her, are you quite sure she is 16, girls lie all the time. sometimes its innocent like the colour of her her, or they will knock a few years off thier age. but if she is pretending to the 16 to look more mature you could end up in a secure unit getting fucked in the arse by jonathan king.

    There's never a dull moment is there :lol:

    Made me smile that did :D

    ....and I've got a rotten hangover after yesterdays shenanigans :lol:
    Every night is curry night!
  • edited June 2008
    beanz wrote: »
    Edit: Oh and take photos.

    and don't bleeding post the pics here for gods sake.
  • edited June 2008
    mile wrote: »
    and don't bleeding post the pics here for gods sake.
    Quite right...

    email them to us :p
    I wanna tell you a story 'bout a woman I know...
  • edited June 2008
    mile wrote: »
    before you bang the hell out of her and start taking photos of her, are you quite sure she is 16, girls lie all the time. sometimes its innocent like the colour of her her, or they will knock a few years off thier age. but if she is pretending to the 16 to look more mature you could end up in a secure unit getting fucked in the arse by jonathan king.

    A good point. Look what happened to Roman Polanski - is he still a fugitive in the US?
  • edited June 2008
    Avon wrote: »
    Wow there are some disturbing suggestions being posted... I guess no-one here has a young daughter?

    Totally agree with ya ! I just think its wrong a 34 year old guy with a 16 year old (Who could have just turned 16 !) totally ! Specially a guy whos openly into porn etc !
  • edited June 2008
    Vampyre wrote: »
    A good point. Look what happened to Roman Polanski - is he still a fugitive in the US?

    yeah i dont think he is allowed back just yet. yeah it can be a simple mistake but being branded a rapist can hurt your future relationships.

    (of course being ignorant of a sexual partners ages is never an excuse.)
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