It's disturbing to equate ANY other woman with your daughter!
If your sister was 30 and you dated a 30yr old...would you be thinkin of your sister?!
? A 30 year old man dating my 30 year old daughter / sister / whatever is fine.
A 34 year old suspect sounding guy dating my 16 year old daughter, and being encouraged to "bang" her while he has the chance = something totally different.
Totally agree with ya Avon ! I think its bad enough but dont for petes sake post stuff about it, like i say ask a friend who will hopefully talk sense to ya.
Good point about Roman Polanski, cant stand that guy.
Totally agree with ya Avon ! I think its bad enough but dont for petes sake post stuff about it, like i say ask a friend who will hopefully talk sense to ya.
Good point about Roman Polanski, cant stand that guy.
leave off, his wife was killed by the manson family, he just needed some comfort.
Look, I am talking with her almost every day, I don't want to gain anxionity in her, so I behave to her as to an ordinary friend. She always greets me as first, it's not my effort. Of course she takes distance to me I am twice older, but she hasn't any problem to speak with me. I see something common to me in her.
Totally agree with ya ! I just think its wrong a 34 year old guy with a 16 year old (Who could have just turned 16 !) totally ! Specially a guy whos openly into porn etc !
There are guys who are not into porn? Weird. :razz:
It's hard to know the real truth about Polanski. He's always claimed that they set him up for blackmail by making out the girl was over 18 and a willing sexual partner. I think it was Angelica Houston who was Jack Nicholsons girlfriend back then (the assualt occured at Nicholson's home - though he wasn't there) and she believed the girl to be over 18 when she met them hours before the attack. The mother and daughter finally spoke out a few years ago after years of silence and claimed it was underage rape. I doubt we'll ever know the real truth, but Polanski's actions afterwards (fleeing, etc) certainly did him no favours, though I don't think he will ever be tried for it. God knows what his mental state was in at the time, it was only a few years since his wife and unborn child had been slaughtered by the Manson family.
Look, I am talking with her almost every day, I don't want to gain anxionity in her, so I behave to her as to an ordinary friend. She always greets me as first, it's not my effort. Of course she takes distance to me I am twice older, but she hasn't any problem to speak with me. I see something common to me in her.
What have you got in common with a 16 year old girl ??
I admit when i was 16/17 any girl who was friendly to me i thought 'wahey she likes me' when in actual fact they were just being friendly.
I reckon the situation might change completely if she knew you liked her 'more' than just friends.
Plus come on fella, youre 34, shes 16 ! What have you got in common with her ? Why cant you a) find girls a bit older and b) talk to your mates about it (so they can talk sense to you in person) instead of talking onilne about it ? Sorry just found it a bit weird personally.
She probably has no problem chatting to many people as she seems nice and friendly but dont suddenly think you and her could be an item all because shes a bit friendly in simply talking to you in a diner ?! Shes a waitress ! Shes meant to be friendly and 'greet you first' ! Sorry but i wouldnt have any 16 year old friends who werent related to me in some way. Sorry but you come across as someone who hasnt had a girlfriend in a long time by the way youre acting/talking.
It's hard to know the real truth about Polanski. He's always claimed that they set him up for blackmail by making out the girl was over 18 and a willing sexual partner. I think it was Angelica Houston who was Jack Nicholsons girlfriend back then (the assualt occured at Nicholson's home - though he wasn't there) and she believed the girl to be over 18 when she met them hours before the attack. The mother and daughter finally spoke out a few years ago after years of silence and claimed it was underage rape. I doubt we'll ever know the real truth, but Polanski's actions afterwards (fleeing, etc) certainly did him no favours, though I don't think he will ever be tried for it. God knows what his mental state was in at the time, it was only a few years since his wife and unborn child had been slaughtered by the Manson family.
Totally agree, can only go on from what i've read but yeah fleeing etc didnt help his case.
Just hate the way when famous people get in this position (eg that comedian guy and the guy from The Who looking at paedo websites for 'research'). If it was Joe Public they would be locked up straight away (granted it would probably be for a year or something stupid)
he he i didn't mean people like the yorkshire ripper. even those falsly accused still face the stigmata.
Look at the guy who was the main suspect in the young mother who was murdered on Wimbledon common in the early 90's. It's destroyed his life - though it has to be said some of the stuff he pulled off whilst being the main suspect was stupid beyond belief.
Sorry if it seems as if I'm getting on my high-horse about this, but someone very close to me was accused of this kind of thing (not as in murder, but the sex stuff) and was completely innocent. It didn't stop his life being utterly trashed though and he's never recovered. You would not believe how easy it is to ruin someone's life with the guilty before proven innocent culture we live in nowadays.
She probably has no problem chatting to many people as she seems nice and friendly but dont suddenly think you and her could be an item all because shes a bit friendly in simply talking to you in a diner ?! Shes a waitress ! Shes meant to be friendly and 'greet you first' ! Sorry but i wouldnt have any 16 year old friends who werent related to me in some way. Sorry but you come across as someone who hasnt had a girlfriend in a long time by the way youre acting/talking.
Odd
I didn't tell I am going for her. I am just describing the situation I am placed and feel weird. That's all.
Guy I used to work with back in England had his front door kicked in twice by mobs in the space of 2 weeks. Because the guy who lived downstairs to him was supposedly a "nonce". They'd got the wrong house and trashed the inside spraypainted pedo on his walls, and smashed everything up. Good job he worked nights otherwise an innocent guy may have been lynched.
The guy downstairs ran off after the second time it happened, he must've had something to hide and with them thinking the guy I worked with was the beast, maybe thought to himself it's getting a little close for comfort.
Either way the guy I worked withs house got broke into again by a mob and in the end he had to move house, even though he hadn't done anything.
I am missing a girlfriend. Newly I met little waitress in a bufet near my residence. She is very nice, has beautiful hair, but here is big problem : She is only 16 (I am 34). Maybe her father is as old as me, I could go for a beer with him (scarry). She has already face of woman, but mind of a pupil - she always talks about school. Should I let her be due to age abyss, or have I to effort for something ?
Sorry just confused by your initial post.
If you go into this diner everytime and you 'feel weird' then go to another diner. If this girl talks to you a lot (as she works there) then thats not too bad. But why are you going on about meeting her father ? If shes just innocently chatting about school to you etc in the diner she works at that isnt that bad but the way you spoke it was like you were getting feelings for her. I'm sure you've edited your initial post as well as i'm sure it sounded worse !
And without sounding rude (sorry !) because of your broken english I dont quite understand what you mean. It came across initially like you wanted a relationship with her (before you edited the post)
Sounds like shes a young girl doing her job, being friendly, she doesnt mean anything by it.
If you go into this diner everytime and you 'feel weird' then go to another diner. If this girl talks to you a lot (as she works there) then thats not too bad. But why are you going on about meeting her father ? If shes just innocently chatting about school to you etc in the diner she works at that isnt that bad but the way you spoke it was like you were getting feelings for her. I'm sure you've edited your initial post as well as i'm sure it sounded worse ! And without sounding rude (sorry !) your broken english i dont quite understand what you mean. It came across initially like you wanted a relationship with her
Sorry, It's been lost in translation. If you say here "I am as old as her father, that I could go with him out to a beer" , it means something very weird and bad. It's absolutely not meant that you want to invite her father.
Sorry, It's been lost in translation. If you say here "I am as old as her father, that I could go with him out to a beer" , it means something very weird and bad. It's absolutely not meant that you want to invite her father.
It sounded like you like this young girl and so wanted to speak to her dad to make sure hes okay with you seeing her (and take him out for a beer to discuss this ?)
Plus saying 'i am missing a girlfriend' makes it sound like you badly want a girlfriend and so this 16 year old girl who is friendly to you might be a good girlfriend ?
Either way , shes 16, youre 34, i just dont think you should even be discussing it. Shes works in a diner and is friendly, nothing more to it ?
Sorry, It's been lost in translation. If you say here "I am as old as her father, that I could go with him out to a beer" , it means something very weird and bad. It's absolutely not meant that you want to invite her father.
Don't worry - fancying a 16 year old girl when you are 34 and realising you are old enough to share a beer with her father is just as weird here.
Look, I am talking with her almost every day, I don't want to gain anxionity in her, so I behave to her as to an ordinary friend. She always greets me as first, it's not my effort. Of course she takes distance to me I am twice older, but she hasn't any problem to speak with me. I see something common to me in her.
Maybe she greets you first because thats what she is there for, to be nice to customers, especially the regulars like you, take their odrer, have a nice convo and then hopfully get a good tip and keep you comming back.
Your a familar face to her, she see's you daily, and in the boredom of her job likes to take an occasional break for a chat. She is being freidnly but to think there may be anything more than that is foolish.
Enjoy this nice girls company but don't get carried away.
I have had many frienships with woman go cold because I've read more into it than there was. I now know not to make those mistakes and let things develop naturaly, its also nicer that way.
Alright now I have time to post agian (damn work).
yeah I was joking earlier.
16vs34 is just paedo in my book...plain and simple (and the fact that it IS paedo in the country I currently reside).
Without seeming to be rude I would be worried if I was you that I was/am having feelings about a 'child' like this....at 16 she is still a child...regardless of the legal definition.
Again how can you even think like this ? If i was kicking a ball around a park and a 16 year old kid (stranger) wanted to join in (as we had a common like for football) i wouldnt do it, just feels weird.
I would go to a different diner if i was you as you seem to be getting/thinking weird feelings for this young girl
when your looking at your porn sites bohusk, the ages are always 18 plus aren't they, no matter which country you are in. so i don't suppose you would search for 16 year old porn stars on the web, would you.
I suggest this thread gets locked, i'm not suggesting that bohusk is doing anything dodgy what so ever. i'm just not sure discussing 16 year old girls and wether older men should date them if very appropriate for a website about spectrum computers.
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It's disturbing to equate ANY other woman with your daughter!
If your sister was 30 and you dated a 30yr old...would you be thinkin of your sister?!
you're right beanz you should always equate them with your mother.
A 34 year old suspect sounding guy dating my 16 year old daughter, and being encouraged to "bang" her while he has the chance = something totally different.
Good point about Roman Polanski, cant stand that guy.
I don't think anybody can :D
leave off, his wife was killed by the manson family, he just needed some comfort.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roman_Polanski#Indictment_on_charge_of_rape_and_other_sex_offenses
Interesting read about Polanski the dodgy bloke
I think after some of the harsh criticism posted here (rightly so !) i dont think Bohusk will post his follow up thread ....
"Should I ask out a 15 year old transexual albino ladyboy from Thailand who i met over the net in a chatroom and ask his pimp for permission ?"
ok lets not turn bohusk into a sex offender just yet. thats for the courts to decide. :razz:
he he i didn't mean people like the yorkshire ripper. even those falsly accused still face the stigmata.
as long as thats all of youself that you see in her.
It's hard to know the real truth about Polanski. He's always claimed that they set him up for blackmail by making out the girl was over 18 and a willing sexual partner. I think it was Angelica Houston who was Jack Nicholsons girlfriend back then (the assualt occured at Nicholson's home - though he wasn't there) and she believed the girl to be over 18 when she met them hours before the attack. The mother and daughter finally spoke out a few years ago after years of silence and claimed it was underage rape. I doubt we'll ever know the real truth, but Polanski's actions afterwards (fleeing, etc) certainly did him no favours, though I don't think he will ever be tried for it. God knows what his mental state was in at the time, it was only a few years since his wife and unborn child had been slaughtered by the Manson family.
What have you got in common with a 16 year old girl ??
I admit when i was 16/17 any girl who was friendly to me i thought 'wahey she likes me' when in actual fact they were just being friendly.
I reckon the situation might change completely if she knew you liked her 'more' than just friends.
Plus come on fella, youre 34, shes 16 ! What have you got in common with her ? Why cant you a) find girls a bit older and b) talk to your mates about it (so they can talk sense to you in person) instead of talking onilne about it ? Sorry just found it a bit weird personally.
She probably has no problem chatting to many people as she seems nice and friendly but dont suddenly think you and her could be an item all because shes a bit friendly in simply talking to you in a diner ?! Shes a waitress ! Shes meant to be friendly and 'greet you first' ! Sorry but i wouldnt have any 16 year old friends who werent related to me in some way. Sorry but you come across as someone who hasnt had a girlfriend in a long time by the way youre acting/talking.
Odd
Totally agree, can only go on from what i've read but yeah fleeing etc didnt help his case.
Just hate the way when famous people get in this position (eg that comedian guy and the guy from The Who looking at paedo websites for 'research'). If it was Joe Public they would be locked up straight away (granted it would probably be for a year or something stupid)
Look at the guy who was the main suspect in the young mother who was murdered on Wimbledon common in the early 90's. It's destroyed his life - though it has to be said some of the stuff he pulled off whilst being the main suspect was stupid beyond belief.
Sorry if it seems as if I'm getting on my high-horse about this, but someone very close to me was accused of this kind of thing (not as in murder, but the sex stuff) and was completely innocent. It didn't stop his life being utterly trashed though and he's never recovered. You would not believe how easy it is to ruin someone's life with the guilty before proven innocent culture we live in nowadays.
I didn't tell I am going for her. I am just describing the situation I am placed and feel weird. That's all.
Guy I used to work with back in England had his front door kicked in twice by mobs in the space of 2 weeks. Because the guy who lived downstairs to him was supposedly a "nonce". They'd got the wrong house and trashed the inside spraypainted pedo on his walls, and smashed everything up. Good job he worked nights otherwise an innocent guy may have been lynched.
The guy downstairs ran off after the second time it happened, he must've had something to hide and with them thinking the guy I worked with was the beast, maybe thought to himself it's getting a little close for comfort.
Either way the guy I worked withs house got broke into again by a mob and in the end he had to move house, even though he hadn't done anything.
Your last few posts sound alright but your initial one sounded different (which you edited)..
Sorry just confused by your initial post.
If you go into this diner everytime and you 'feel weird' then go to another diner. If this girl talks to you a lot (as she works there) then thats not too bad. But why are you going on about meeting her father ? If shes just innocently chatting about school to you etc in the diner she works at that isnt that bad but the way you spoke it was like you were getting feelings for her. I'm sure you've edited your initial post as well as i'm sure it sounded worse !
And without sounding rude (sorry !) because of your broken english I dont quite understand what you mean. It came across initially like you wanted a relationship with her (before you edited the post)
Sounds like shes a young girl doing her job, being friendly, she doesnt mean anything by it.
Sorry, It's been lost in translation. If you say here "I am as old as her father, that I could go with him out to a beer" , it means something very weird and bad. It's absolutely not meant that you want to invite her father.
It sounded like you like this young girl and so wanted to speak to her dad to make sure hes okay with you seeing her (and take him out for a beer to discuss this ?)
Plus saying 'i am missing a girlfriend' makes it sound like you badly want a girlfriend and so this 16 year old girl who is friendly to you might be a good girlfriend ?
Either way , shes 16, youre 34, i just dont think you should even be discussing it. Shes works in a diner and is friendly, nothing more to it ?
Maybe she greets you first because thats what she is there for, to be nice to customers, especially the regulars like you, take their odrer, have a nice convo and then hopfully get a good tip and keep you comming back.
Your a familar face to her, she see's you daily, and in the boredom of her job likes to take an occasional break for a chat. She is being freidnly but to think there may be anything more than that is foolish.
Enjoy this nice girls company but don't get carried away.
I have had many frienships with woman go cold because I've read more into it than there was. I now know not to make those mistakes and let things develop naturaly, its also nicer that way.
yeah I was joking earlier.
16vs34 is just paedo in my book...plain and simple (and the fact that it IS paedo in the country I currently reside).
Without seeming to be rude I would be worried if I was you that I was/am having feelings about a 'child' like this....at 16 she is still a child...regardless of the legal definition.
Again how can you even think like this ? If i was kicking a ball around a park and a 16 year old kid (stranger) wanted to join in (as we had a common like for football) i wouldnt do it, just feels weird.
I would go to a different diner if i was you as you seem to be getting/thinking weird feelings for this young girl
I suggest this thread gets locked, i'm not suggesting that bohusk is doing anything dodgy what so ever. i'm just not sure discussing 16 year old girls and wether older men should date them if very appropriate for a website about spectrum computers.