Fatal Atraction type of thing...
I feel a bit ridiculous to tell this story... I've been giving some classes & work shops, and one of the schools where I teach, is mostly for "older" people, (35 and up).
I always organise a dinner with my students in the end of the workshops, so we can all talk a bit longet
the last workshop I gave, my GF was watching the last lesson, and in the end, this woman who I did not remember at all, came to me, saying she was really sad because she couldn't come to the dinner, I told her that she could always do a visit on another workshop if she wanted to talk about movies (I teach cinema history), and she asked "oh, can I visit you at work, I heard you say in one of the classes that you drove from X Street".
it freaked me a bit out because that's the street I live, and surprised & stupid I sayd "but that's my house"
she replied "I work nearby, maybe we can meet for a coffe".
I didn't say anything, and when I went home I even joked about it with my GF about how crazzy that aproach was...
months passed and I made a presentation of my book in a book fair, I sent an e-mail to all of my old students to see if they would go... and a small group show up (my last class had 70 students I didn't rememeber all their faces)
I took some pictures with them and got an e-mail from one of them sending me the pictures and telling that she would like to promote my book on a govarnamental newsletter
I was delighted with it, and we swapped a few mails, so I would send her all I needed. the last e-mail was a bit strange, because she said that she would like if I could bring her the things personally, I sent everything by mail... so being polite I told her that I would rather meet her for a coffe, to thank her.
first she said "ok how about in 2 hours?" when I said I couldn't, she sent me sort of an agressive e-mail telling that I didn't have to go there if I didn't want to, and that she wasn't looking for anykind of rewards...
at this time I was still trying to be polite, explained I was not available, but would meet her next week... that's when the sms and phone calls started, and when she told me "I can meet you at X Street" I conected the dots and realised it was the crazzy woman.
I avoided the meeting and the mails and sms became more agressive. after 1 or 2 I stopped replying, but she kept on it for more 2 or 3 mails and sms...
it's been a week since she last said anything, but I felt a bit freaked out, and it's the sort of situation that I know If I tell, everyone will say "well I bet you mislead her somehow".
I just hope I don't get my cat in the boilling pan...
I always organise a dinner with my students in the end of the workshops, so we can all talk a bit longet
the last workshop I gave, my GF was watching the last lesson, and in the end, this woman who I did not remember at all, came to me, saying she was really sad because she couldn't come to the dinner, I told her that she could always do a visit on another workshop if she wanted to talk about movies (I teach cinema history), and she asked "oh, can I visit you at work, I heard you say in one of the classes that you drove from X Street".
it freaked me a bit out because that's the street I live, and surprised & stupid I sayd "but that's my house"
she replied "I work nearby, maybe we can meet for a coffe".
I didn't say anything, and when I went home I even joked about it with my GF about how crazzy that aproach was...
months passed and I made a presentation of my book in a book fair, I sent an e-mail to all of my old students to see if they would go... and a small group show up (my last class had 70 students I didn't rememeber all their faces)
I took some pictures with them and got an e-mail from one of them sending me the pictures and telling that she would like to promote my book on a govarnamental newsletter
I was delighted with it, and we swapped a few mails, so I would send her all I needed. the last e-mail was a bit strange, because she said that she would like if I could bring her the things personally, I sent everything by mail... so being polite I told her that I would rather meet her for a coffe, to thank her.
first she said "ok how about in 2 hours?" when I said I couldn't, she sent me sort of an agressive e-mail telling that I didn't have to go there if I didn't want to, and that she wasn't looking for anykind of rewards...
at this time I was still trying to be polite, explained I was not available, but would meet her next week... that's when the sms and phone calls started, and when she told me "I can meet you at X Street" I conected the dots and realised it was the crazzy woman.
I avoided the meeting and the mails and sms became more agressive. after 1 or 2 I stopped replying, but she kept on it for more 2 or 3 mails and sms...
it's been a week since she last said anything, but I felt a bit freaked out, and it's the sort of situation that I know If I tell, everyone will say "well I bet you mislead her somehow".
I just hope I don't get my cat in the boilling pan...
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sometimes people read things into you being nice to them that isn't there. my friend had it with his neighbour, i said.. she fancies you.. he had none of it.. and about 2 weeks later it was said.. as she was hanging around..
BUT he's the sort of person who will help anyone out, people like him for him and friends ask about him in that sense. it's probably obvious you have a girlfriend / wife.. the one who buys you nice games ? (only for you to moan ;) ) . some weirdo women though see that as even more of a challenge.
I had an ex hit me up on facebook the other day, a woman I finished with years ago, basically she was very 2 faced and bitchy even about her own friends.. so I can't be doing with it.. and she started going on funny with me, but now she's blocked. at least your wary of it, but unless something happens like silent calls etc you can't do a lot about it.
if she's a bit unhinged best have no contact with her.. I do know of a woman who was stalked years ago, and it took ages for it to go to court.
she'll probably get bored tbh if you don't hear anything for a while.. but if odd stuff starts happening .. report it.
Make sure you mention your girlfriend a lot more (I presume she thinks youre single ?)
She might not have any contact with any guys so every week or whenever your cinema talk is she probably really looks forward to it and takes your friendly attitude the wrong way. If all else fails send her Miles way as i reckon he'll be interested ;)
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that'll be fog in a wig. :p
How did she get your phone number?
I'd stop replying altogether and see what happens. Don't make any contact, not even to say "sod off"
The place I was teaching gave it to all my students in case they needed... (stupid jerks)
Then hang up and switch your phone off.:-)
don't be silly I try to avoid south london.. moreso there wearing a syrup from allied :)
Hahahaha! I was wondering why "her" hair looked so lopsided! :grin:
loolz :D
...I'm sure we've all done worse... :grin:
:D
Mrs.T then arrived and looked daggers at her until she went away
LOL
Start wearing a top hat, keep the rabbit in there.
I was at this Barn Dance, and got chatting to my ex..we had a couple of dances and then she introduces me to this rather portly (read large), tattooed-from-head-to-foot, Goth girl called Joy. "Could you do me a favour and dance with her...her husband isn't here tonight and she's no-one to dance with..."
Stupidly, in a bid to impress the ex and not make her think I was still hopelessly besotted with her, which I kind of was, I agreed to a dance....
It was rather noisy, and Joy being from Newcastle had a thick Geordie accent..usually that's not a problem, but with the extra background noise I was finding it hard to understand her all of the time. We danced for another dance and she starts saying something to me...Tired of saying "what?" every 2 seconds I just nodded my head, as that seemed to be the response she was after...and then after the dance, went back to mingling and drinking and dancing with the ex.
2 weeks later, I get a phonecall..."Hello...It's Joy...remember me?"
"Uhm...hello....who gave you my number?"
Apparently, my ex....(Later when I quizzed my ex and threatened to kill her for ever introducing me to the mad lass, she denied giving her the address and said she must have looked in the phonebook because she knew my name...)
"So do you want to go ahead with what we agreed?"
"Sorry...what?"
"You agreed to have an affair with me...."
"Errr....no I didn't..."
"Yes you did...you nodded!"
"Oh! Jesus....Oh no,no,no...I didn't hear you! I was just nodding to be polite..."
"Yeah right! I don't believe you..so do you wanna?"
"No! I'm really not interested....sorry..I think there's been a huge misunderstanding...."
She then proceeded to tell me how she really liked me and wanted to meet, but I was adamant that there would be no chance of anything happening and could she please leave me alone....Two days later, she's sat outside my house in her car. She was there the next two nights as well. She phoned the house every hour asking to speak to me, which really annoyed my parents...Eventually I went out and spoke to her through her car window.
I asked her to please stop as I just wasn't interested...she informed me she was leaving her husband and would I be interested then? I told her most definitely not.....she hung around for another week, sitting outside every night...and then, I thought, it was over.....
Until 2 years later she phoned my parents again to tell them she'd left her husband and wanted to meet me....I met up with her to tell her that there was no way on Earth anything was ever going to happen between us, that I wasn't interested and that I basically found her really scary and please don't ever contact me again.....
So far so good......
I'm kidding, I have no idea who you're on about, believe it or not us Geordies really don't know everybody from Newcastle.....well apart from Mad Dave and Radgee Bazza, everyone knows those 2 :D
:p
With you thus far. So far, so good.
So ... you live with your parents ... and you let this wonderful catch slip through your fingers?
This could have been your chance to get your own place ... or this could have been your parent's only chance of finally seeing you leave the nest.
:-P
I remember that. classy birds
my advice is just to stay out the way of all women forever and just stay in your room playing horace goes skiing at every available opportunity with your mobile phone OFF and your life will be stress free
Don't forget Spuggy. Everyone up there knows a Spuggy! :lol:
thats where i lost my sympathy for you. :-D
i know - what does a bird need to do to get rode.
greasing its nipples