Asking a friend for a job
I just send a e-mail to an old friend (I used to work with him, but we haven't kept in touch much over the past 6 years) asking for a job.
Second time I've done it since I got unemployed, mostly I asked if they knew about openings, don't want to put them on the hot spot of "having to give a job to a friend". also it was strange to send a less formal and more personal letter with your CV.
any of you guys ever asked for jobs to friends & relatives? any changes on your relations with them?
Second time I've done it since I got unemployed, mostly I asked if they knew about openings, don't want to put them on the hot spot of "having to give a job to a friend". also it was strange to send a less formal and more personal letter with your CV.
any of you guys ever asked for jobs to friends & relatives? any changes on your relations with them?
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"I'm about to make a decision that could change our life for the worse. I can't stand this job anymore and I'm not happy. I may or may not be able to get something better but I can't force you and the kids to go through hell with me. You have the right to tell me you want to go a separate way or stay with me and see what happens. I can't guarantee what's going to happen next. Either way I'll respect you, but I don't want to make my wife and sons suffer."
She decided to stick with me and I got a simple job as a merchandiser 6 years ago. Since then I've changed jobs and positions almost 6 times but always for the better. We're planning to buy our first home next year. I'm going back to school this year.
I've always believed these 2 things:
-If I can't provide for my family, I don't deserve one
-If someone doesn't have a stable financial life and can't guarantee financial security, they shouldn't get married
I know this is a little bit off-topic but felt like mentioning it. This level of responsibility has helped me make tough decisions along the way, surpass obstacles and overcome problems.
I think both, woman and man should contribute the same in providing money for the family. If any of them is jobless, then they have to be more tight with the expenses, but nothing else.
Im quite fed up with the idea of the man being the main supporter of the family, its not fair, specially in these days! :)
As for what you said, Van, if its a good friend, the relationship wont change, unless you mess up at your new job very badly :P
We fell out for quite a while after that but we're speaking again, it was 15 years ago.
Let me explain a little better... Of course both can contribute, but back then she didn't had a job and I was about to give up mine. Things could go bad really, really fast. Nowadays we both work, one full time job and one part time job, each. :)
Although I'm ok with the wife working, I wouldn't be ok being jobless for a long time and having her support the family on her own. VanTammen probably feels the same way and that's why he's searching. But I've seen a few families where the guy is healthy but just stays around in the house, saying life is difficult and jobs are hard to find, while the wife is the only one supporting the family. That looks bad to me.
edit: There's also another aspect of this topic which hasn't been discussed. Family and friends may be afraid of giving a job or helping get a job at a certain place because they've been "burned" in the past. I remember helping someone get hired where I work. He wouldn't fit. He wouldn't adapt. He wasn't happy. The job was easy and all he had to do was hang on, but his pride was bigger than his efficiency, and he quit. I've had two family members do that to me in the past 5 years. They don't realize that in the end I'm the one that looks bad. When someone really needs a job and is really desperate they shouldn't be picky.
You sound kind of old-fashioned. Do you open doors and get her the chair from under the table before she sits down too? ;)
I think it's perfectly ok for guys to be at home while their wife work for the money. As long as they take care of the cleaning, cooking, children and stuff that goes with it (the guys at home that is, not their wife that goes to work).