7 years now. We went to a comedy show in the village couple of months ago and still go out from time to time, but mainly do a lot of our own things really.
Sadly, we rarely watch TV together. She likes almost nothing of my taste and vice versa.
we go out now and again, meals, cinema or just out with friends
we sit in watch the telly binge watching a series, sometimes I'm messing around with AGD and she's playing on her phone
othertimes she's writing her masters and I'll play on a console
we go to the gym together to do classes when we can, other time we go separately
sometimes we organise a party where everyone brings a little food and booze to share
when we have the time to spare and the grandparents can pick the kids up from school when they go for tea, we'll pop out for a days shopping in Liverpool or Manchester (money permitting)
on Wednesdays me 'n' CodenameV pop out for a couple of jars
After 17 years and two young kids we're both too knackered to do anything other than watch telly most of the time. We have very similar tastes in TV and film - she draws the line at music documentaries and pr0n though :(
After 12 years of full time marriage, I'd like to scale back to a part time marriage. I'd like to get a flat of my own and live in it 3 to 4 night per week. That would be perfect.
After 12 years of full time marriage, I'd like to scale back to a part time marriage. I'd like to get a flat of my own and live in it 3 to 4 night per week. That would be perfect.
13 years married with a 7 and 10 year old. We are and always have been a team but we pursue outside interests a lot more now - I have my karate and video games, and she has, well, whatever it is she does - we just let each other get on with it. We walk the in-laws dog every night together for an hour and that's been really great as it gives us a chance to have a chat rather than just talking about the kids/work - plus a chance to get away from them bickering!
Have the occasional nights out with other couples. I don't see my friends much these days as they've all recently had babies and are doing what I did 5+ years ago. They're not local any more either. Bit annoying, but can't be helped.
Physically we've massively toned down from what we were like - rabbits - but we've both found we just don't have the interest in the last 4 or 5 years. Can go a couple of months these days, it doesn't feel all that long ago that 1 day would have us both climbing the walls!
14 year sentence here with no hint of parole. We are a family of gamers and have been known to play altogether but mostly on our own interests. We don't smoke, drink or do drugs and we're not religious nut-cases either. We rarely watch television and almost certainly not the same programmes apart from maybe Big Bang Theory as we eat our delicious dinners.
The wife often says it must be a miracle that we have stayed together with absolutely nothing in common but I disagree. I think we would have lasted about a year had we worn matching jumpers and went hiking together.
We don't go out much socially as we don't see it as a problem. We like being at home because we've done our rummaging around in our younger years. We haven't seen it all but have seen enough. We are hardly the Waltons but this is how I like it, peaceful, settled, any worries put into perspective and dealt with, family and pets at the head of the agenda and all outsiders treated with kid gloves :)
Sex was great at first then went stale. Strangely it mysteriously flared up again and my wife turned into a raging nympho. I didn't complain.
Physically we've massively toned down from what we were like - rabbits - but we've both found we just don't have the interest in the last 4 or 5 years. Can go a couple of months these days, it doesn't feel all that long ago that 1 day would have us both climbing the walls!
A couple of months?
Sex feels like a distant memory at the moment. It doesn't help that I've been working 70-hour weeks for the last two months. Oh well, now Mrs Spoons has hit 40 hopefully I'll have the "raging nympho" stage to look forward to :D
Sex feels like a distant memory at the moment. It doesn't help that I've been working 70-hour weeks for the last two months. Oh well, now Mrs Spoons has hit 40 hopefully I'll have the "raging nympho" stage to look forward to :D
:-)
The problem for us (as with most couples with kids, I guess) is simply mostly finding the time to be alone and secondly a lack of will. The girls are almost constantly with us until they fall asleep between 9 and 10, at which point we've both showered and settling down to sleep as we're knackered from a long working day. So that rules out last thing at night. The wife's up and commuting to work by 6.50am so that rules out first thing in the morning. No chance in the middle of the night - I don't sleep great as it is so I need uninterrupted sleep.
It's only really if I take a friday off (missus doesn't work Fridays) or the girls clear off to brownie camp or we can land them with relatives or their friends' parents. Over Xmas - no chance :-(
After 7 1/2 years of marriage, the fun is not what is was, but the mariage is still going strong.
At the time I got married. We used to go out almost every friday night to the city dancing to soul and R&B music, we used to go to the pub once on Thursdays or Tuesdays, then their was cinimar or bolowing and karaoke with friends on Saturdays. We'd spend our weekends walking in the Brecon Beacons or on the Gower Penisular or go rock climing. I'd be working hard on my studies too, but it was really enjoyable work. It was a heavenly lifestyle. We come in from a night out, watch some comedy such as red-dwarf or futureama in my room, then make mad passionate love.
All this ground to a halt suddenly when our first kid arrived. My wife turned in to fussy and staid mother that didn;t want any of that former lifeftyle. Her dress sense deminished, and she became a little frumpy. That said she is a great mum to our kid raising an enthusistic and inquisitive little genius that 'does not get to watch any TV' and knows nothing of Super heros or Bob the Builder.
She is not as bubbly as she used to be, but a great comanion, and still has the great figure she had at 21 ;).
As for intamacy. Once almost every day, now once a month. This is partly my fault though. I work so hard that I come to bed too late.
That said she is a great mum to our kid raising an enthusistic and inquisitive little genius that 'does not get to watch any TV' and knows nothing of Super heros or Bob the Builder.
I'm honestly not saying this as a criticism or trying to cause offense (hopefully I'm known well enough on here that you know I wouldn't do that), it's just the way I see it. I believe every parent has a right to bring up their kid the way they say see fit, but I'm guessing you consider this a good thing, otherwise why mention it? I just see it as potentially the kid who gets shunned by others because they have less in common with the other kids.
It don't half put you off watching a kid being born though :-)
I'm honestly not saying this as a criticism or trying to cause offense (hopefully I'm known well enough on here that you know I wouldn't do that), it's just the way I see it. I believe every parent has a right to bring up their kid the way they say see fit, but I'm guessing you consider this a good thing, otherwise why mention it? I just see it as potentially the kid who gets shunned by others because they have less in common with the other kids.
He'll properly get shunned when his dad's smash poop story get discovered online by the other kids. :-D
It don't half put you off watching a kid being born though :-)
I'm honestly not saying this as a criticism or trying to cause offense (hopefully I'm known well enough on here that you know I wouldn't do that), it's just the way I see it. I believe every parent has a right to bring up their kid the way they say see fit, but I'm guessing you consider this a good thing, otherwise why mention it? I just see it as potentially the kid who gets shunned by others because they have less in common with the other kids.
I put it in quotes when I mentioned it because, it was my wife's idea that I do not whole heartedly agree with. Her opinion on the matter is, just because everyone's doing it does not make it right. To a ceartain extend that's true, his cognative abillity and interest in numbers, reading and science and the natural world is way above his years. Every time me and him watch TV together, she's hovering, and snipping about how it could get addicted. It's a subject of contention that I reply with the 'Yes Dear' aknowlgement so I do not get the Academic Lecture on the subject once again.
I put it in quotes when I mentioned it because, it was my wife's idea that I do not whole heartedly agree with. Her opinion on the matter is, just because everyone's doing it does not make it right. To a ceartain extend that's true, his cognative abillity and interest in numbers, reading and science and the natural world is way above his years. Every time me and him watch TV together, she's hovering, and snipping about how it could get addicted. It's a subject of contention that I reply with the 'Yes Dear' aknowlgement so I do not get the Academic Lecture on the subject once again.
However, at school it will lead to isolation when friends are talking about xyz program and they have favourite shows.
It's getting to be less of a problem these days as kids are more likely to be watching and sharing youtube videos.
However, at school it will lead to isolation when friends are talking about xyz program and they have favourite shows.
It's getting to be less of a problem these days as kids are more likely to be watching and sharing youtube videos.
It's probably true I know. However, lokking at this from another perspective one could say the world is full of many wonderfull things to discover. Filling our kids heads with made up rubiish designed only to sell toys, leaves far less attention for the more magical and important things of this world. I often wonder if kids saw less fighting in cartoons and toys etc if that would change society in 20 years? That said, I don't want my son turning out to be a push over. I will try to work hard to ensure he is strong and can handle himeself.
Whist he could not name you a single Transformer or Ninja Turtle, he can recognise many birds, mushrooms, butterflies and flowers by sight. He is a fulent reader and can also count to 20 in about 12 languages and 100 in 3. He loves to do science experements in the kitchen, plays with lego and is learning piano. He has several friends he meets up with regularly.
Just coming up on 10 years myself.. Glad to see my experience is par for the course with most others here.
Same things - back in the day had lots of sex, now about twice a week, but not that arsed. She goes to bed around 8-8:30, I stay up until 10-midnight(ish) messing about on the computer / consoles.
I watch Netflix with her sometimes, which is OK. Wish I could say that I don't avoid her, but I do.
She complains that I don't talk to her, then when I try to, she interrupts to tell me to do something or to yell at the dog, (or something or other), then tells me to carry on (at which point I don't want to). I've told her that I find it condescending which leads to argument, then crying, then accepting my point, then continuing with exactly the same behavior anyway, so why did I bother in the first place?
(Her mother's exactly the same though - actually worse - so it's pretty deeply engrained in her.)
Oh yes, and everything stops for bloody food!
("I'VE MADE SUPPER! COME AND GET SUPPER! IT'S GETTING COLD!")
And the fact that she's cooked (to her mind) means that the rest of us need to wait on her hand-and-foot for the rest of the night. :x
I spend my weeks at work looking forward to the weekend so I can relax, but I never can.. Between her and my son I always have to be going somewhere or doing something - usually something mundane like grocery shopping, swimming lessons or tidying up the house.
I hardly see my mates any more. It's a weird combo of can't be arsed combined with haven't got time (same for my mates as they mostly have young families), combined with the dread of "fancy a pint?" becoming some poncy couples' evening two weeks from now.
(No, I don't want a wine and cheese party on the 15th, and we can invite Gloria & Richard and that nice couple who moved in down the street.. I just want to go to the pub, with my mate, tonight, (not his wife or mine) and sink a few and put the world to rights..F#*K!)
I still like going out to the pub, and she likes going out for meals, so we do that a fair bit, but she won't go out drinking with me (or if she does, she just bitches that she'd be more comfortable at home watching TV and doesn't have a good time - which makes me feel guilty for having suggested it). At least I mostly get to have a couple of pints when we go out to eat and she drives home.
On the positive side - it's not like I loathe her and can't stand to be around her, so that's something I guess.. You could say "in a perfect world.." yadda yadda, but reality's not a 'perfect world' so I guess I've got it pretty good, considering..
Also, what everyone's been saying reminded me of this song by Alice Cooper:
You and Me
When I get home from work
Wanna wrap myself around you
I wanna take you and squeeze you
Till the passion starts to rise
I wanna take you to heaven
That would make my day complete
But you and me ain't no movie stars
What we are is what we are
We share a bed, some lovin' and TV, yeah
And that's enough for a workin' man
What I am is what I am
And I tell you, babe
Well, that's enough for me
Sometimes when you're asleep
And I'm just starin' at the ceiling
I wanna reach out and touch you
But you just go on dreamin'
If I could take you to heaven
That would make my day complete
'Cause you and me ain't no movie stars
What we are is what we are
I tell you sweetheart that's just enough for me
You and me ain't no super stars
What we are is what we are
We share a bed, popcorn and TV, yeah
But that's enough for a workin' man
What I am is what I am
And I tell you, babe
You're just enough for me
When I get home from work
I wanna wrap myself around you
I like to hold you squeeze you
Till the passion starts to rise
I wanna take you to heaven
That would make my day complete
Been together for 21 years, married for 13 of those. We each have our own interests bit come together 3 or 4 nights a week to watch telly together and occasionally chat.
It's not red hot passion but it's working for us. Or at least, for me. :)
I used to go and sit on the pc a lot in the evenings, but since I got a tablet I can sit on the couch and browse while she watches tv. And thankfully she's been weened off the soaps she was watching. Her fave things now are 'the wire' and 'still game' boxed sets.
The only bugging thing is Christmas. She is Canadian, so all her traditional films and music is all pap. Mostly classic American stuff. The only saving grace is the Xbox we use in the front room is region locked, so she has to sit in the bedroom to watch her Canadian bought films. Thank you Microsoft. :-D
Oh and ever year she buys me the latest call of duty game, id prefer something else but I don't have the heart to tell her. Hopefully next year cod will be xbox one only.
It's probably true I know. However, lokking at this from another perspective one could say the world is full of many wonderfull things to discover. Filling our kids heads with made up rubiish designed only to sell toys, leaves far less attention for the more magical and important things of this world. I often wonder if kids saw less fighting in cartoons and toys etc if that would change society in 20 years? That said, I don't want my son turning out to be a push over. I will try to work hard to ensure he is strong and can handle himeself.
Whist he could not name you a single Transformer or Ninja Turtle, he can recognise many birds, mushrooms, butterflies and flowers by sight. He is a fulent reader and can also count to 20 in about 12 languages and 100 in 3. He loves to do science experements in the kitchen, plays with lego and is learning piano. He has several friends he meets up with regularly.
He would get on well with one of my wifes friends sons, his parents are really eccentric, but not in a bad way, one of them's a brain surgeon and the other a psychiatrist. Their son is a bloody genius when I talk to him it's like I'm talking to an adult, but there's still a childlike innocence there. One of the last times he spoke to me he was telling me about a dream he had, then he analyzed it better than any adult ever could have.
He does watch what he wants but chooses not to watch a load of kiddy stuff (He does enjoy things like Ninja Turtles though), and he plays playstation (but not loads), and he has plenty of friends who are all probably clinically stupid in comparison to him.
So I wouldn't worry too much about little Mr. George not fitting in.
I know they're not my kids but I tell my wife off for letting my god son watch power rangers, and his sisters watch crap like Sabrina, or that show that had that Selena Gomez chick in it. Programs like that really are complete trash, and the 3 of them have picked up some rather annoying habits from these shows. Nothing worse than hearing an 8 year girl old talk like a clueless teenage hipster just cos' she thinks it's cool cos' she's seen it on TV.
The only bugging thing is Christmas. She is Canadian, so all her traditional films and music is all pap.
Same here - my wife is Canadian.. (Haven't had Xmas with my folks in 10 years now).
Thing is, I used to love Xmas with my folks in the UK because we did nearly nothing all day. Beer, video games, Dr. Who special. Done.
Her family loves visiting each other on Xmas and opening presents at so-and-so's house and going for supper at so-and-so's. They make such a production of it, and there's no 'opting out' or you'll put someone's nose out of joint. I mostly just sit there wanting to go home. (Especially on the years when it's my turn to drive, so I can't drink.)
Same here - my wife is Canadian.. (Haven't had Xmas with my folks in 10 years now).
Thing is, I used to love Xmas with my folks in the UK because we did nearly nothing all day. Beer, video games, Dr. Who special. Done.
Her family loves visiting each other on Xmas and opening presents at so-and-so's house and going for supper at so-and-so's. They make such a production of it, and there's no 'opting out' or you'll put someone's nose out of joint. I mostly just sit there wanting to go home. (Especially on the years when it's my turn to drive, so I can't drink.)
Same type of deal in America.....annoying!
Fortunately everyone we want to see comes to our house now, which means the place gets wrecked, but it means we don't spend the entire day travelling around 25 different families houses, or going to awkward dinners with people we only see once a year.
So many of those I've gone to where there's yet another person I don't recognize, a lot of awkward silence, and people judging you because you haven't done anything amazing in the last year since you spoke to them, like it's any of their f**king business anyway.
Thankfully since we no longer have to deal with it I can get pissed when I want, having to stay sober and behave myself on one of the few days of the year when the rules go out the window is rather frustrating.
Do you go out and do fun things with your wife or do you just watch telly with her?
Or do you go out and do fun things with your friends instead?
Oh man, now you guys made me feel old. We are 21 years together, 18 married. :o
I would say the "problem" is not the marriage, but the kids. It takes so much time taking care of them all the time, regardless of how old they are, that there is not much time for anything else, neither together nor alone. :roll:
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No time for fun things.
An' you know what they said?
Well, some of it was true!
Sadly, we rarely watch TV together. She likes almost nothing of my taste and vice versa.
I play Playstation, she watches crap telly.
We see each other for a split second at sunrise, and at sunset.
At sunrise she turns into and eagle, and at sunset I turn into a wolf, oh it's tragic.
we go out now and again, meals, cinema or just out with friends
we sit in watch the telly binge watching a series, sometimes I'm messing around with AGD and she's playing on her phone
othertimes she's writing her masters and I'll play on a console
we go to the gym together to do classes when we can, other time we go separately
sometimes we organise a party where everyone brings a little food and booze to share
when we have the time to spare and the grandparents can pick the kids up from school when they go for tea, we'll pop out for a days shopping in Liverpool or Manchester (money permitting)
on Wednesdays me 'n' CodenameV pop out for a couple of jars
Until she hires a temp to fill in.... :grin:
Have the occasional nights out with other couples. I don't see my friends much these days as they've all recently had babies and are doing what I did 5+ years ago. They're not local any more either. Bit annoying, but can't be helped.
Physically we've massively toned down from what we were like - rabbits - but we've both found we just don't have the interest in the last 4 or 5 years. Can go a couple of months these days, it doesn't feel all that long ago that 1 day would have us both climbing the walls!
The wife often says it must be a miracle that we have stayed together with absolutely nothing in common but I disagree. I think we would have lasted about a year had we worn matching jumpers and went hiking together.
We don't go out much socially as we don't see it as a problem. We like being at home because we've done our rummaging around in our younger years. We haven't seen it all but have seen enough. We are hardly the Waltons but this is how I like it, peaceful, settled, any worries put into perspective and dealt with, family and pets at the head of the agenda and all outsiders treated with kid gloves :)
Sex was great at first then went stale. Strangely it mysteriously flared up again and my wife turned into a raging nympho. I didn't complain.
A couple of months?
Sex feels like a distant memory at the moment. It doesn't help that I've been working 70-hour weeks for the last two months. Oh well, now Mrs Spoons has hit 40 hopefully I'll have the "raging nympho" stage to look forward to :D
A temp would be welcome - to be on the receiving end of the passive aggression and bitching that I have to put up with.
:-)
The problem for us (as with most couples with kids, I guess) is simply mostly finding the time to be alone and secondly a lack of will. The girls are almost constantly with us until they fall asleep between 9 and 10, at which point we've both showered and settling down to sleep as we're knackered from a long working day. So that rules out last thing at night. The wife's up and commuting to work by 6.50am so that rules out first thing in the morning. No chance in the middle of the night - I don't sleep great as it is so I need uninterrupted sleep.
It's only really if I take a friday off (missus doesn't work Fridays) or the girls clear off to brownie camp or we can land them with relatives or their friends' parents. Over Xmas - no chance :-(
she was having an affair
At the time I got married. We used to go out almost every friday night to the city dancing to soul and R&B music, we used to go to the pub once on Thursdays or Tuesdays, then their was cinimar or bolowing and karaoke with friends on Saturdays. We'd spend our weekends walking in the Brecon Beacons or on the Gower Penisular or go rock climing. I'd be working hard on my studies too, but it was really enjoyable work. It was a heavenly lifestyle. We come in from a night out, watch some comedy such as red-dwarf or futureama in my room, then make mad passionate love.
All this ground to a halt suddenly when our first kid arrived. My wife turned in to fussy and staid mother that didn;t want any of that former lifeftyle. Her dress sense deminished, and she became a little frumpy. That said she is a great mum to our kid raising an enthusistic and inquisitive little genius that 'does not get to watch any TV' and knows nothing of Super heros or Bob the Builder.
She is not as bubbly as she used to be, but a great comanion, and still has the great figure she had at 21 ;).
As for intamacy. Once almost every day, now once a month. This is partly my fault though. I work so hard that I come to bed too late.
I'm honestly not saying this as a criticism or trying to cause offense (hopefully I'm known well enough on here that you know I wouldn't do that), it's just the way I see it. I believe every parent has a right to bring up their kid the way they say see fit, but I'm guessing you consider this a good thing, otherwise why mention it? I just see it as potentially the kid who gets shunned by others because they have less in common with the other kids.
He'll properly get shunned when his dad's smash poop story get discovered online by the other kids. :-D
I put it in quotes when I mentioned it because, it was my wife's idea that I do not whole heartedly agree with. Her opinion on the matter is, just because everyone's doing it does not make it right. To a ceartain extend that's true, his cognative abillity and interest in numbers, reading and science and the natural world is way above his years. Every time me and him watch TV together, she's hovering, and snipping about how it could get addicted. It's a subject of contention that I reply with the 'Yes Dear' aknowlgement so I do not get the Academic Lecture on the subject once again.
However, at school it will lead to isolation when friends are talking about xyz program and they have favourite shows.
It's getting to be less of a problem these days as kids are more likely to be watching and sharing youtube videos.
Can't really imagine kids these days even having those conversations what with the availability of stuff.
My life is pretty much perfect :lol:
It's probably true I know. However, lokking at this from another perspective one could say the world is full of many wonderfull things to discover. Filling our kids heads with made up rubiish designed only to sell toys, leaves far less attention for the more magical and important things of this world. I often wonder if kids saw less fighting in cartoons and toys etc if that would change society in 20 years? That said, I don't want my son turning out to be a push over. I will try to work hard to ensure he is strong and can handle himeself.
Whist he could not name you a single Transformer or Ninja Turtle, he can recognise many birds, mushrooms, butterflies and flowers by sight. He is a fulent reader and can also count to 20 in about 12 languages and 100 in 3. He loves to do science experements in the kitchen, plays with lego and is learning piano. He has several friends he meets up with regularly.
Same things - back in the day had lots of sex, now about twice a week, but not that arsed. She goes to bed around 8-8:30, I stay up until 10-midnight(ish) messing about on the computer / consoles.
I watch Netflix with her sometimes, which is OK. Wish I could say that I don't avoid her, but I do.
She complains that I don't talk to her, then when I try to, she interrupts to tell me to do something or to yell at the dog, (or something or other), then tells me to carry on (at which point I don't want to). I've told her that I find it condescending which leads to argument, then crying, then accepting my point, then continuing with exactly the same behavior anyway, so why did I bother in the first place?
(Her mother's exactly the same though - actually worse - so it's pretty deeply engrained in her.)
Oh yes, and everything stops for bloody food!
("I'VE MADE SUPPER! COME AND GET SUPPER! IT'S GETTING COLD!")
And the fact that she's cooked (to her mind) means that the rest of us need to wait on her hand-and-foot for the rest of the night. :x
I spend my weeks at work looking forward to the weekend so I can relax, but I never can.. Between her and my son I always have to be going somewhere or doing something - usually something mundane like grocery shopping, swimming lessons or tidying up the house.
I hardly see my mates any more. It's a weird combo of can't be arsed combined with haven't got time (same for my mates as they mostly have young families), combined with the dread of "fancy a pint?" becoming some poncy couples' evening two weeks from now.
(No, I don't want a wine and cheese party on the 15th, and we can invite Gloria & Richard and that nice couple who moved in down the street.. I just want to go to the pub, with my mate, tonight, (not his wife or mine) and sink a few and put the world to rights..F#*K!)
I still like going out to the pub, and she likes going out for meals, so we do that a fair bit, but she won't go out drinking with me (or if she does, she just bitches that she'd be more comfortable at home watching TV and doesn't have a good time - which makes me feel guilty for having suggested it). At least I mostly get to have a couple of pints when we go out to eat and she drives home.
On the positive side - it's not like I loathe her and can't stand to be around her, so that's something I guess.. You could say "in a perfect world.." yadda yadda, but reality's not a 'perfect world' so I guess I've got it pretty good, considering..
Also, what everyone's been saying reminded me of this song by Alice Cooper:
You and Me
When I get home from work
Wanna wrap myself around you
I wanna take you and squeeze you
Till the passion starts to rise
I wanna take you to heaven
That would make my day complete
But you and me ain't no movie stars
What we are is what we are
We share a bed, some lovin' and TV, yeah
And that's enough for a workin' man
What I am is what I am
And I tell you, babe
Well, that's enough for me
Sometimes when you're asleep
And I'm just starin' at the ceiling
I wanna reach out and touch you
But you just go on dreamin'
If I could take you to heaven
That would make my day complete
'Cause you and me ain't no movie stars
What we are is what we are
I tell you sweetheart that's just enough for me
You and me ain't no super stars
What we are is what we are
We share a bed, popcorn and TV, yeah
But that's enough for a workin' man
What I am is what I am
And I tell you, babe
You're just enough for me
When I get home from work
I wanna wrap myself around you
I like to hold you squeeze you
Till the passion starts to rise
I wanna take you to heaven
That would make my day complete
It's not red hot passion but it's working for us. Or at least, for me. :)
The only bugging thing is Christmas. She is Canadian, so all her traditional films and music is all pap. Mostly classic American stuff. The only saving grace is the Xbox we use in the front room is region locked, so she has to sit in the bedroom to watch her Canadian bought films. Thank you Microsoft. :-D
Oh and ever year she buys me the latest call of duty game, id prefer something else but I don't have the heart to tell her. Hopefully next year cod will be xbox one only.
He would get on well with one of my wifes friends sons, his parents are really eccentric, but not in a bad way, one of them's a brain surgeon and the other a psychiatrist. Their son is a bloody genius when I talk to him it's like I'm talking to an adult, but there's still a childlike innocence there. One of the last times he spoke to me he was telling me about a dream he had, then he analyzed it better than any adult ever could have.
He does watch what he wants but chooses not to watch a load of kiddy stuff (He does enjoy things like Ninja Turtles though), and he plays playstation (but not loads), and he has plenty of friends who are all probably clinically stupid in comparison to him.
So I wouldn't worry too much about little Mr. George not fitting in.
I know they're not my kids but I tell my wife off for letting my god son watch power rangers, and his sisters watch crap like Sabrina, or that show that had that Selena Gomez chick in it. Programs like that really are complete trash, and the 3 of them have picked up some rather annoying habits from these shows. Nothing worse than hearing an 8 year girl old talk like a clueless teenage hipster just cos' she thinks it's cool cos' she's seen it on TV.
Same here - my wife is Canadian.. (Haven't had Xmas with my folks in 10 years now).
Thing is, I used to love Xmas with my folks in the UK because we did nearly nothing all day. Beer, video games, Dr. Who special. Done.
Her family loves visiting each other on Xmas and opening presents at so-and-so's house and going for supper at so-and-so's. They make such a production of it, and there's no 'opting out' or you'll put someone's nose out of joint. I mostly just sit there wanting to go home. (Especially on the years when it's my turn to drive, so I can't drink.)
Same type of deal in America.....annoying!
Fortunately everyone we want to see comes to our house now, which means the place gets wrecked, but it means we don't spend the entire day travelling around 25 different families houses, or going to awkward dinners with people we only see once a year.
So many of those I've gone to where there's yet another person I don't recognize, a lot of awkward silence, and people judging you because you haven't done anything amazing in the last year since you spoke to them, like it's any of their f**king business anyway.
Thankfully since we no longer have to deal with it I can get pissed when I want, having to stay sober and behave myself on one of the few days of the year when the rules go out the window is rather frustrating.
Oh man, now you guys made me feel old. We are 21 years together, 18 married. :o
I would say the "problem" is not the marriage, but the kids. It takes so much time taking care of them all the time, regardless of how old they are, that there is not much time for anything else, neither together nor alone. :roll:
Patrik